Getting Real: 10 Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life


Susan M. Campbell - 2001
    Susan Campbell provides simple yet practical awareness practices — culled from her 35-year career as a relationship coach and corporate consultant — that require individuals to “let go” of the need to be right, safe, and certain. Such questions as “In what areas of my life do I feel the need to lie, sugarcoat, or pretend?” help guide the reader toward self-realization. The ten truth skills include Letting Yourself Be Seen, Taking Back Projections, Saying No, Welcoming Feedback, Expressing Taboo Thoughts and Emotions, Revising an Earlier Statement, Holding Differences, Sharing Mixed Emotions, and Embracing the Silence of Not Knowing.

Superflirt


Tracey Cox - 2003
    Packed with intimate photographs of real-life scenarios, this is the most stylish, elegantly designed, and up-to-date guide to body language available.

Bringing Out the Best in People


Aubrey C. Daniels - 1993
    When an employer needs to know how to gain maximum performance from employees, renowned behavioral psychologist--Aubrey Daniels is the man to consult. What has made Daniels the man with the answers? His ability to apply scientifically based behavioral stimuli to the workplace while making it fun at the same time. Now Daniels updates his ground-breaking book with the latest and best motivational methods, perfected at such companies as Xerox, 3M, and Kodak. All-new material shows how to: create effective recognition and rewards systems in line with today's employees want; Stimulate innovations and creativity in new and exciting ways; overcome problems associated with poorly educated workers; motivate young employees from the minute they join the workforce.

The Drama Triangle (Transactional Analysis in Bite Sized Chunks Book 2)


Catherine Holden - 2013
    We struggle to understand why people behave as they do, and why they choose dysfuntional, repetitive behaviours. We can't understand why some are habitually dependent, while others are exhaustingly self-sacrificing or unfairly unkind.If you want to improve your understanding of the Human race, the Drama Triangle will help.Once you understand three archetypal roles - the Victim, the Persecutor and the Rescuer, you can identify when you have been on the Drama Triangle in the past, if you are playing it now and who is inviting you to take up one of the roles in their Triangle.Essential reading for everyone, this book is easy to read and even easier to understand, providing a gentle introduction to this dynamic area of Transactional Analysis.

How To Be More Interesting


Edward de Bono - 1998
    It is often thought that intelligence, beauty and confidence make you more interesting. This is not true. Being interesting is nothing to do with intelligence, beauty or confidence. It is actually a state of mind. In How to be More Interesting, lateral-thinking guru Edward de Bono reveals how playing with ideas, making connections, speculating and using the imagination are at the heart of being an interesting person. With seventy exercises that will help you bring humour, insight and surprise to everyday situations, this book will ensure that people not only find you fascinating company but also won't be able to forget you. 'An inspiring man with brilliant ideas. De Bono never ceases to amaze with his clarity of thought' Sir Richard Branson Edward de Bono invented the concept of lateral thinking. A world-renowned writer and philosopher, he is the leading authority in the field of creative thinking and the direct teaching of thinking as a skill. Dr de Bono has written more than 60 books, in 40 languages, with people now teaching his methods worldwide. He has chaired a special summit of Nobel Prize laureates, and been hailed as one of the 250 people who have contributed most to mankind. Dr de Bono's titles include classic bestsellers such as Six Thinking Hats, Lateral Thinking, I Am Right You Are Wrong, Teach Yourself How To Think, Teach Your Child How To Think, and Simplicity. www.edwdebono.com

Dig Your Well before You're Thirsty: The only networking book you'll ever need


Harvey MacKay - 1997
    Bestselling author Harvey Mackay reveals his techniques for the most essential tool in business--networking, the indispensable art of building contacts.Now in paperback, Dig Your Well Before You're Thirsty is Harvey Mackay's last word on how to get what you want from the world through networking.  For everyone from the sales rep facing a career-making deal to the entrepreneur in search of capital, Dig Your Well explains how meeting these needs should be no more than a few calls away.  This shrewdly practical book distills Mackay's wisdom gleaned from years of "swimming with sharks," including: What kinds of networks exist How to start a network, and how to wring the most from it The smart way to downsize your list--who to keep, who to dump How to keep track of favors done and favors owed--Is it my lunch or yours? What you can do if you are not good at small talkDig Your Well Before You're Thirsty is a must for anyone who wants to get ahead by reaching out.

Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You


Patricia Evans - 2002
    Controlling People reveals the thought processes of those who try to control others and provides a “spell-breaking” mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation.Does this sound like someone you know? *Always needs to be right *Tells you who you are and what you think *Implies that you’re wrong or inadequate when you don’t agree *Is threatened by people who are “different” *Feels attacked when questioned *Doesn’t seem to really hear or see you If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, bestselling author Patricia Evans, tackles the “controlling personality,” and reveals how and why these people try to run other people’s lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior—even as they alienate others and often lose those they love. Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern or spell be broken? YES, says the author. By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur. Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.

The Power of Eye Contact: Your Secret for Success in Business, Love, and Life


Michael Ellsberg - 2010
    Ivan Misner, author of Masters of Networking “The Power of Eye Contact is a must-read book if you want a lasting relationship—or want to deepen the one you’re in.”—Marie Forleo, author Make Every Man Want You “Both mysterious and rewarding, the text reveals the powerful secrets of using the eyes to connect with others.”—Rom Brafman, co-author of Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior The secret to success in business, love, and life is The Power of Eye Contact. Author Michael Ellsberg provides an authoritative and extensive guide to mastering a potent force that can change your life.

Effortless Small Talk: Learn How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere... Even If You're Painfully Shy


Andy Arnott - 2014
    I would awkwardly blunder my way through conversations and always end up embarrassing myself. However, instead of accepting my awful social skills as “part of me” I decided to overcome them and master small talk. And You Can Master Small Talk Too… In this book I detail everything I did to overcome my fear and inability to make small talk, so that you can do it too. You can pick up this book, read through it and have an actionable step-by-step structure to follow so you can master small talk. If you follow the simple structure and easy strategies I lay out then you will be able to converse with anyone, anytime, anywhere. I studied everything from esteemed psychologists all the way to pick-up artists so I could find the simplest ways to conquer my fears. Everything in this book has been boiled down to its simplest form and then molded into actionable steps. This means you don’t need to spend countless hours researching, reading and testing techniques, I did all that for you. You just need to read this book. As you work through the book you will learn the following: - The simplest, most actionable strategies for mastering small talk - How to effortlessly ‘open’ any conversation, no matter where you are - How to control your body language to make people want to talk to you - How to use small talk to get ahead in life - Simple psychological hacks to instantly improve your mood and radiate confidence - How to make other people want to talk to you And much, much more. But Why is Small Talk So Important Well, here's the funny thing… Most people don’t think small talk is important at all, but that’s because they aren’t aware just how powerful it is. If you learn to master small talk then you can use it to better your life in an almost infinite number of ways. Small talk can be used to do any of the following, and much more: - Get a new promotion at work - Meet a new romantic partner - Network with incredible people - Avoid being the awkward one at the party And that is only scratching the surface. So, if you hate how awkward you are in social situations and wish you could change, let me help you. I wrote this book to help people who were in the exact situation I was in just a few years ago. So, don’t let your poor social skills hold you back in life and cripple you. Instead, learn to master small talk. Buy the book now and learn how to make effortless small talk with anyone, anywhere, anytime. Click the “buy now” button and start conquering your fears and inabilities right now. I look forward to helping you on your journey.

Every Body's Talking: What We Say Without Words


Donna M. Jackson - 2014
    Research shows that standing like a hero makes you feel--and act--like one!Humans use words to communicate, but we also use our bodies to send messages. We may nod our heads in agreement, widen our eyes in surprise, or give someone the thumbs up as a sign of approval. But did you know that the thumbs up gesture is considered rude in Greece? Or that nodding your head—which means "yes" in the United States and Canada—actually means "no" in the European countries of Albania and Bulgaria? Every Body's Talking walks readers through the ins and outs (and ups and downs) of body language. Find out what's really being expressed when people stand, sit, or move in certain ways and learn how you can use your body and facial expressions to communicate more effectively!

The Full Facts Book of Cold Reading: A Comprehensive Guide to the Most Persuasive Psychological Manipulation Technique in the World


Ian Rowland - 1998
    

As We Speak: How to Make your Point and Have It Stick


Peter Meyers - 2010
    This book is designed to make sure that you’re not one of them. Even for the most self-confident among us, public speaking can be a nerve-racking ordeal. Whether we are speaking to a large audience, within a group, or in a one-on-one conversation, the way in which we communicate ideas, as much as the ideas themselves, can determine success or failure. In this invaluable guide by two of today’s most sought-after communication experts, Peter Meyers and Shann Nix offer a comprehensive approach for tackling the underlying obstacles that almost all of us experience when faced with speaking in public. In As We Speak, you’ll learn to master the three building blocks at the core of their approach:Content: Organize the information you want to convey and construct a clear and lucid architecture of ideas that will lead your listener through a memorable emotional experience.Delivery: Use your body, voice, eyes, and hands in ways that engage your audience and naturally support your message.State: Bring yourself into peak performance condition. Your state is the way you feel when you perform, and it is both the most powerful and most frequently overlooked component of communication.Meyers and Nix show how to apply these principles in a wide variety of situations. You’ll learn how to handle difficult face-to-face conversations with colleagues, friends, and family; how to make the best use of e-mail, phone, video conference, and other technology; and how to communicate in a crisis, when all eyes are on you and emotions are running high. Meyers and Nix also emphasize that effective communication is impossible without first becoming aware of your own true goals and personal beliefs, and they offer helpful tools and exercises that will lead you to greater clarity and self-knowledge.Accessible, inspiring, and laden with useful tips, As We Speak will help you discover your authentic voice and learn to convey your ideas in the most powerful and memorable way possible.

The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven Techniques for Overcoming Your Fears


Martin M. Antony - 2000
    This workbook is designed to help the reader overcome these paralyzing social phobias and provides skill-building exercises for improvement of communication, public speaking and general anxiety. It also contains an intensive, self-directed treatment programme.

Changing Minds: The Art And Science of Changing Our Own And Other People's Minds


Howard Gardner - 2004
    Chances are you weren’t successful in shifting that person’s beliefs in any way. In his book, Changing Minds, Harvard psychologist Howard Gardner explains what happens during the course of changing a mind – and offers ways to influence that process.Remember that we don’t change our minds overnight, it happens in gradual stages that can be powerfully influenced along the way. This book provides insights that can broaden our horizons and shape our lives.

Negotiating for Success: Essential Strategies and Skills


George J. Siedel - 2014
    We negotiate with our spouses, children, parents and friends. We negotiate when we rent an apartment, buy a car, purchase a house and apply for a job. Your ability to negotiate might even be the most important factor in your career advancement.Negotiation is also the key to business success. No organization can survive without contracts that produce profits. At a strategic level, businesses are concerned with value creation and achieving competitive advantage. But the success of high-level business strategies depends on contracts made with suppliers, customers and other stakeholders. Contracting capability-the ability to negotiate and perform successful contracts-is the most important function in any organization.This book is designed to help you achieve success in your personal negotiations and in your business transactions. The book is unique in two ways. First, the book not only covers negotiation concepts, but also provides practical actions you can take in future negotiations. This includes a Negotiation Planning Checklist and a completed example of the checklist for your use in future negotiations.The book also includes (1) a tool you can use to assess your negotiation style; (2) examples of "decision trees," which are useful in calculating your alternatives if your negotiation is unsuccessful; (3) a three-part strategy for increasing your power during negotiations; (4) a practical plan for analyzing your negotiations based on your reservation price, stretch goal, most-likely target, and zone of potential agreement; (5) clear guidelines on ethical standards that apply to negotiations; (6) factors to consider when deciding whether you should negotiate through an agent; (7) psychological tools you can use in negotiations-and traps to avoid when the other side uses them; (8) key elements of contract law that arise during negotiations; and (9) a checklist of factors to use when you evaluate your performance as a negotiator.Second, the book is unique in its holistic approach to the negotiation process. Other books often focus narrowly either on negotiation or on contract law. Furthermore, the books on negotiation tend to focus on what happens at the bargaining table without addressing the performance of an agreement. These books make the mistaken assumption that success is determined by evaluating the negotiation rather than evaluating performance of the agreement. Similarly, the books on contract law tend to focus on the legal requirements for a contract to be valid, thus giving short shrift to the negotiation process that precedes the contract and to the performance that follows.In the real world, the contracting process is not divided into independent phases. What happens during a negotiation has a profound impact on the contract and on the performance that follows. The contract's legal content should reflect the realities of what happened at the bargaining table and the performance that is to follow. This book, in contrast to others, covers the entire negotiation process in chronological order beginning with your decision to negotiate and continuing through the evaluation of your performance as a negotiator.A business executive in one of the negotiation seminars the author teaches as a University of Michigan professor summarized negotiation as follows: "Life is negotiation!" No one ever stated it better. As a mother with young children and as a company leader, the executive realized that negotiations are pervasive in our personal and business lives. With its emphasis on practical action, and with its chronological, holistic approach, this book provides a roadmap you can use when navigating through your life as a negotiator.