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The 3-Minute Rule: Say Less to Get More from Any Pitch or Presentation
Brant Pinvidic - 2019
And follow one simple rule: Convey only what needs to be said, clearly and concisely, in three minutes or less. That’s the 3-Minute Rule.Hollywood producer and pitch master Brant Pinvidic has sold more than three hundred TV shows and movies, run a TV network, and helmed one of the largest production companies in the world with smash hits like The Biggest Loser and Bar Rescue. In his nearly twenty years of experience, he’s developed a simple, straightforward system that’shelped hundreds—from Fortune 100 CEOs to PTA presidents—use top-level Hollywood storytelling techniques to simplify their messages and say less to get more. Pinvidic proves that anyone can deliver a great pitch, for any idea, in any situation, so your audience not only remembers your message but can pass it on to their friends and colleagues. You’ll see how his methods work in a wide range of situations—from presenting investment opportunities in a biotech startup to pitching sponsorship deals for major sports stadiums, and more. Now it’s your turn. The 3-Minute Rule will equip you with an easy, foolproof method to boil down any idea to its essential elements and structure it for maximum impact.Simplify. Say less. Get More.
Dealing with Difficult People (HBR Emotional Intelligence Series)
Harvard Business Review - 2007
How do you stay calm in a tough conversation? How do you stay unruffled in the face of passive-aggressive comments? And how do you know if you're difficult to work with?This book explains the research behind our emotional response to awful colleagues and shows how to build the empathy and resilience to make those relationships more productive.Books in this series are based on the work of experts including:
Daniel Goleman
Tony Schwartz
Nick Morgan
Daniel Gilbert
This collection of articles includes "To Resolve a Conflict, First Decide: Is It Hot or Cold?" by Mark Gerzon; "Taking the Stress Out of Stressful Conversations," by Holly Weeks; "The Secret to Dealing with Difficult People: It's About You," by Tony Schwartz; "How to Deal with a Mean Colleague," by Amy Gallo; "How To Deal with a Passive-Aggressive Colleague," by Amy Gallo; "How to Work with Someone Who's Always Stressed Out," by Rebecca Knight; "How to Manage Someone Who Thinks Everything Is Urgent," by Liz Kislik; and "Do You Hate Your Boss?" by Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries.
HOW TO BE HUMAN AT WORK.
The HBR Emotional Intelligence Series features smart, essential reading on the human side of professional life from the pages of Harvard Business Review. Each book in the series offers proven research showing how our emotions impact our work lives, practical advice for managing difficult people and situations, and inspiring essays on what it means to tend to our emotional well-being at work. Uplifting and practical, these books describe the social skills that are critical for ambitious professionals to master.
Body Language
Julius Fast - 1970
Unconsciously, it telegraphs your thoughts as you fold your arms, cross your legs, stand, walk, move your eyes and mouth. The new science of kinesics deals with these physical signals that we all send out.
The Ellipsis Manual: analysis and engineering of human behavior
Chase Hughes - 2017
Originally written as a manual for intelligence operations.Get groundbreaking, surgical-level skills with the textbook of human behavior and influence: - Behavior profiling- Advanced body language skills- Advanced deception detection- Covert influence tactics- Behavior control methods- Interrogation secrets- Behavioral programming secrets- Fear, insecurity and needs identification- Physical methods of hacking the brain- Using confusion as a persuasion tool- Word-for-word scripts for extreme behavioral persuasionFrom America's leading behavior tactics expert, Chase Hughes
Interaction Ritual: Essays on Face-To-Face Behavior
Erving Goffman - 1967
Rather, moments and their men," writes Erving Goffman in the introduction to his groundbreaking 1967 Interaction Ritual, a study of face-to-face interaction in natural settings, that class of events which occurs during co-presence and by virtue of co-presence. The ultimate behavioral materials are the glances, gestures, positionings, and verbal statements that people continuously feed into situations, whether intended or not. This is an interesting account of daily social interaction viewed with a new perspective for the logic of our behavior in ordinary circumstances.
The Storytelling Edge: How to Transform Your Business, Stop Screaming Into the Void, and Make People Love You
Shane Snow - 2018
Recommended!--Jay Baer, founder of Convince & Convert and author of Hug Your Haters
Once upon a time, storytelling was confused with talking at people. Not anymore. Shane and Joe are your narrators in a journey that will transform how you talk to other human beings to be more believable, relevant, compelling and unforgettable.--Brian Solis, experience architect, digital anthropologist, best-selling authorShane Snow and Joe Lazauskas spend the overwhelming majority of their time thinking, writing, and theorizing about brand storytelling - so you don't have to. They're smart and they know this topic inside out (and sideways). Read their book. While I can't guarantee you'll rise to Shane and Joe's ridiculously obsessive level, you will be infinitely better prepared to tell your own brand's story. Promise!--Rebecca Lieb, Analyst, Author & AdvisorThe Contently team understands the power of story, and how to craft and spread a great narrative, like no other. In an era where brand, design, and mission are a competitive advantage for every business, Contently underscores the importance of stories and how they transform companies and industries.--Scott Belsky, Entrepreneur, Investor, & Author (Founder of Behance, bestselling author of Making Ideas Happen)I can't think of a better way to illustrate the power of story telling than by telling great stories. This book should be required reading not just by those with content in their titles, but by anyone in Marketing AND Sales. Then, when you're done, give it to your CEO to read... but make sure you get it back, because I guarantee you'll refer to it more than once.--Shawna Dennis, Senior Marketing LeaderNeuroscience, algorithms, illustrations, personal anecdotes and good, old-fashioned empathy: This entertaining and informative tome journeys to the core of how we communicate and pushes us, as marketers and humans, to do it better, speeding the reader through and leaving us wanting more.--Ann Hynek, VP of global content marketing at Morgan StanleyTransform your business through the power of storytelling.Content strategists Joe Lazauskas and Shane Snow offer an insider's guide to transforming your business--and all the relationships that matter to it--through the art and science of telling great stories.Smart businesses today understand the need to use stories to better connect with the people they care about. But few know how to do it well. In The Storytelling Edge, the strategy minds behind Contently, the world renowned content marketing technology company, reveal their secrets that have helped award-winning brands to build relationships with millions of advocates and customers.Join as they dive into the neuroscience of storytelling, the elements of powerful stories, and methodologies to grow businesses through engaging and accountable content.With The Storytelling Edge you will discover how leaders and workers can craft the powerful stories that not only build brands and engage customers, but also build relationships and make people care--in work and in life.
The Narcissist You Know: Defending Yourself Against Extreme Narcissists in an All-About-Me Age
Joseph Burgo - 2015
Scientists are beginning to learn that narcissism exists on a spectrum—much like autism—and most of us exhibit some mild narcissistic tendencies. But one in twenty people fall into a category the author refers to as Extreme Narcissism, in which these self-absorbed characteristics result in destructive behavior that harms not only the individual but everyone around them, including friends, family, and coworkers.With more than thirty years of experience studying personality disorders and treating extreme narcissists, Dr. Joseph Burgo has developed a useful guidebook to help you identify, understand, and manage narcissistic personalities. Relying on detailed profiles, vignettes from the author's practice, and celebrity biographies, The Narcissist You Know offers easy-to-understand tools and solutions you can use to defuse hostile situations and survive assaults on your self-esteem should you ever find yourself in an extreme narcissist's orbit.Don't let narcissism destroy your relationships. Get the tools you need to understand, work with, and live with the narcissist you know.
How to Be a Power Connector: The 5+50+100 Rule for Turning Your Business Network Into Profits
Judy Robinett - 2014
To achieve any goal, you need other people to help you do it. -- JUDY ROBINETTAs anyone in business knows, strategic planning is critical to achieving long-term success. In How to Be a Power Connector, super-networker Judy Robinett argues that strategic relationship planning should be your top priority.When you combine your specific skills and talents with a clear, workable path for creating and managing your relationships, nothing will stop you from meeting your goals. With high-value connections, you'll tap into a dynamic power grid of influence guaranteed to accelerate your personal and professional success.Robinett uses her decades of experience connecting the world's highest achievers with one another to help you build high-value relationships. She reveals all the secrets of her trade, including proven ways to:Find and enter the best network ecosystem to meet your goalsReach even the most unreachable people quickly and effectivelyGet anyone's contact information within 30 secondsCreate a 3-D connection that adds value to multiple people at the same timeAccess key infl uencers through industry and community eventsSubtly seed conversation with information about interests and needsUse social media to your best advantageRobinett has based her methods on solid research proving that social groups begin to break up when they become larger than 150 people, and that 50 members is the optimal size for group communication. As such, she has developed what she calls the 5+50+100 method: contact your top 5 connections daily, your Key 50 weekly, and your Vital 100 monthly. this is your power grid, and it will work wonders for your career.Nothing will stop you when you learn How to Be a Power Connector.PRAISE FOR HOW TO BE A POWER CONNECTOR:Unlike many books in this genre, this one is written by a woman who has lived it.. . . Judy Robinett offers guidance on how to form authentic relationships that bring mutual benefits. -- ADAM GRANT, Wharton professor and New York Times bestselling author of Give and TakeHow to Be a Power Connector is like an MBA in networking: an advanced course in finding and developing quality relationships with the people who can make the biggest difference in your professional success. -- IVAN MISNER, founder and chairman of BNITalk about power! Follow Judy Robinett's logical, straightforward, and helpfully detailed advice, and you can be a 'Power Connector' yourself! Great ideas, well presented, with no 'wasted space' in her argument! -- DON PEPPERS, coauthor of Extreme Trust: Honesty as a Competitive AdvantageAbsolutely brilliant. A step-by-step guide to building a network that will be both invaluable to you and just as valuable to those whose lives you will now have the opportunity to touch. I can't imagine a more powerful book for one who truly desires to be a Power Connector. -- BOB BURG, coauthor of The Go-Giver and author of Adversaries into AlliesIn the C-Suite or in your personal life everything comes down to the quality of your relationships. Judy's book helps you attract and maintain the relationships that will get you what you want most. Be a super connector now! -- JEFFREY HAYZLETT, TV host and bestselling author of Running the Gauntlet
Methods of Persuasion: How to Use Psychology to Influence Human Behavior
Nick Kolenda - 2013
Drawing on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience, the entire book culminates a powerful 7-step persuasion process that follows the acronym, METHODS:
Step 1: Mold Their Perception
Step 2: Elicit Congruent Attitudes
Step 3: Trigger Social Pressure
Step 4: Habituate Your Message
Step 5: Optimize Your Message
Step 6: Drive Their Momentum
Step 7: Sustain Their Compliance
This book teaches you the psychology behind each step, and it explains how you can use METHODS to influence people's thoughts, emotions, and behavior in nearly any situation.
You've Got 8 Seconds
Paul Hellman - 2017
The average attention span has dropped to 8 seconds.So whether you're presenting to a large audience, meeting one-on-one, talking on the phone, or even sending an email, you've got to engage others fast, before they tune you out , , , maybe forever.Your challenge: to get heard, get remembered & get results.Through fast, fun, actionable tips, You've Got 8 Seconds explains what works and what doesn't, what's forgettable and what sticks. With stories, scripts, and examples of good and bad messages, the book reveals three main strategies to get heard in a noisy world:FOCUS: Design a strong message--then say it in seconds.VARIETY: Make routine information come alive.PRESENCE: Convey confidence and command attention.You'll discover practical techniques, including the Fast-Focus Method™, which the author uses to help senior executives make their messages stick; how to stand out in the first seconds of a presentation; and 10 actions that spell executive presence.The next time you speak, others will either tune in or tune out. You've got 8 seconds--make them count!
How to Speak How to Listen
Mortimer J. Adler - 1983
Adler gives a short course in effective communication, invaluable for salespeople, negotiators, teachers, and families seeking better communication among themselves.
Intimate Connections
David D. Burns - 1984
David Burns, M.D., author of the bestselling Feeling Good, applies the proven principles of Cognitive Therapy to eliminating the negative thinking and low self-esteem that causes loneliness and shyness. With sensible and sensitive advice, case histories, and revealing exercises, this step-by-step program shows you how to:- Pinpoint and rid yourself of attitudes that keep you apart from others - Master the techniques that make you feel and look more attractive- Deal with people who give you the runaround- Resist romantic temptations not in your best interest- Release inhibitions to conquer performance anxiety and enhance sexual pleasure- Develop fulfilling relationships . . . and more"Revelatory . . . Burns understands on a gut level."--The Chicago Tribune
Maximum Influence: The 12 Universal Laws of Power Persuasion
Kurt W. Mortensen - 2004
AllenDo you realize how much your success, relationships, leadership potential, and income depend on your ability to persuade, motivate, and influence others? Whatever you want to achieve, Maximum Influence can help make it real. Renowned expert Kurt Mortensen combines scientific research with real-world studies to provide the most authoritative and effective arsenal of proven techniques for persuading, influencing, and motivating others. You'll learn the 12 Laws of Persuasion, plus how to:* Read people instantly* Make people trust and like you instinctively* Discover persuasion techniques that 99% of people don't even know exist* And persuade anyone to give you almost anything -- anywhere, anytime!You'll also learn why prospects aren't buying from you -- and how to change their minds. A refreshing departure from the same old worn-out techniques, Maximum Influence presents the life-changing skills and techniques that will help you fulfill all your hopes and dreams!"
Stop Being Lonely: Three Simple Steps to Developing Close Friendships and Deep Relationships
Kira Asatryan - 2016
It can also happen when we are with people. Online friends, followers, or “likers” don’t necessarily add up to much when you crave fulfilling interaction, and satisfying, long-term relationships are not a mystery to be left up to chance (or technology). The good news is that, according to relationship coach Kira Asatryan, loneliness has a reliable antidote: the feeling of closeness. We can and should cultivate closeness in our relationships using the steps outlined in this book: knowing, caring, and mastering closeness.Whether with romantic partners, friends, family members, or business colleagues, these techniques will help you establish true closeness with others. The simple and straightforward actions Asatryan presents in this wonderfully practical book will guide you toward better relationships and less loneliness in all social contexts.
Soft Skills: The Software Developer's Life Manual
John Z. Sonmez - 2014
In it, developer and life coach John Sonmez addresses a wide range of important "soft" topics, from career and productivity to personal finance and investing, and even fitness and relationships, all from a developer-centric viewpoint.For most software developers, coding is the fun part. The hard bits are dealing with clients, peers, and managers, staying productive, achieving financial security, keeping yourself in shape, and finding true love. This book is here to help.Soft Skills: The software developer's life manual is a guide to a well-rounded, satisfying life as a technology professional. In it, developer and life coach John Sonmez offers advice to developers on important "soft" subjects like career and productivity, personal finance and investing, and even fitness and relationships. Arranged as a collection of 71 short chapters, this fun-to-read book invites you to dip in wherever you like. A Taking Action section at the end of each chapter shows you how to get quick results. Soft Skills will help make you a better programmer, a more valuable employee, and a happier, healthier person.What's InsideBoost your career by building a personal brandJohn's secret ten-step process for learning quicklyFitness advice to turn your geekiness to your advantageUnique strategies for investment and early retirement