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psychology
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relationships
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Saying What's Real: 7 Keys to Authentic Communication and Relationship Success
Susan M. Campbell - 2005
Drawing on her years of experience as a relationship coach and a teamwork consultant to Fortune 500 companies, Susan Campbell shows readers how to drastically improve the quality of their everyday interations by relying on a simple, straight-forward approach to communication and letting go of their need to control the outcome. Practical techniques for dropping one's defenses are offered, as well as a fresh new perspective on using intimate relationships as a form of spiritual practice. Other useful tools include seven statements designed to bring the reader's awareness into the present moment, as well as handy communication-enhancing phrases and Campbell's insights on the most commonly encountered problems.
Parenting the QBQ Way: How to be an Outstanding Parent and Raise Great Kids Using the Power of Personal Accountability
John G. Miller - 2012
The solution: Learn to parent the QBQ® way - and bring personal accountability to life within our families. Based on the same concepts that have made John Miller's signature work, QBQ: The Question Behind the Question, an international bestseller over the last decade, Parenting the QBQ Way provides the tool called the QBQ or The Question Behind the Question that will help every parent look behind questions such as "Why won't my kids listen?" or "When will they do what I ask?" to find better ones-QBQs-like "What can I do differently?" or "How can I improve as a parent?" This simple but challenging concept turns the focus - and responsibility - back to parents and to what they can do to make a difference. With thoughtful commentary, observation, and advice, illustrated with engaging and memorable anecdotes that are the hallmarks of John Miller's previous books, Parenting the QBQ Way provides all moms and dads with the means and inspiration to be more effective parents - as well as teach their children how to practice their own brand of personal accountability - to create a happy, healthy family for a lifetime.
In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People
George K. Simon Jr. - 1996
"This book clearly illustrates the true nature of disturbed characters, exposes the tactics the most manipulative characters use to pull the wool over the eyes of others, and outlines powerful, practical ways to deal more effectively with manipulative people."
Difficult Mothers: Understanding and Overcoming Their Power
Terri Apter - 2012
Using the newest research on human attachment and brain development, Terri Apter, an internationally acclaimed psychologist and writer, unlocks the mysteries of this complicated bond. She showcases the five different types of difficult mother—the angry mother, the controlling mother, the narcissistic mother, the envious mother, and the emotionally neglectful mother—and explains the patterns of behavior seen in each type. Apter also explores the dilemma at the heart of a difficult relationship: why a mother has such a powerful impact on us and why we continue to care about her responses long after we have outgrown our dependence. She then shows how we can conduct an “emotional audit” on ourselves to overcome the power of the complex feelings a difficult mother inflicts. In the end this book celebrates the great resilience of sons and daughters of difficult mothers as well as acknowledging their special challenges.
The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)
Philippa Perry - 2019
Yet for so many families, these relationships go can wrong and it may be difficult to get back on track. In The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad that You Did), renowned psychotherapist Philippa Perry shows how strong and loving bonds are made with your children and how such attachments give a better chance of good mental health, in childhood and beyond.She'll help you to:- Understand how your own upbringing may be impacting upon your parenting style- Contain, express, accept and validate your own and your child's feelings- Understand that all behaviour is communication- Break negative cycles and patterns- Accept that you will make mistakes and what to do about themAlmost every parent loves their children, but by following the refreshing, sage and sane advice and steps in this book you will also find yourselves liking one another too.
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma
Peter A. Levine - 1997
It views the human animal as a unique being, endowed with an instinctual capacity. It asks and answers an intriguing question: why are animals in the wild, though threatened routinely, rarely traumatized? By understanding the dynamics that make wild animals virtually immune to traumatic symptoms, the mystery of human trauma is revealed.Waking the Tiger normalizes the symptoms of trauma and the steps needed to heal them. People are often traumatized by seemingly ordinary experiences. The reader is taken on a guided tour of the subtle, yet powerful impulses that govern our responses to overwhelming life events. To do this, it employs a series of exercises that help us focus on bodily sensations. Through heightened awareness of these sensations trauma can be healed.
An Adult Child's Guide to What's Normal
John C. Friel - 1990
But: Do you know what healthy people do? Do you know what is “normal”? Do you know how to ask unwanted guests to leave?In An Adult Child’s Guide to What’s “Normal”, John and Linda Friel have written a practical guide to living a healthy life. Your parents may not have been able to teach you social skills but it is not too late to learn them now. Read this guide and learn how to respond to the challenges, problems and traps that we are faced with daily.
The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
Eleanor D. Payson - 2002
Reclaim your life from the one-way street! Disguised as high self-esteem, narcissism is actually a destructive form of self-love or extreme self-absorption."
The Attachment Theory Workbook: Powerful Tools to Promote Understanding, Increase Stability, and Build Lasting Relationships
Annie Chen LMFT - 2019
With guidance to confront challenges and explore possibilities for real change, The Attachment Theory Workbook offers an active approach to build close, healthy, long-lasting relationships.With The Attachment Theory Workbook you’ll learn:
Attachment Theory 101—Learn the founding principles of attachment theory and what they mean to you.
Your Attachment Style—Understand how your thoughts and feelings about relationships impact anxious, avoidant, and even secure attachment behaviors.
How to Heal—Use exercises and questionnaires to foster understanding, intimacy, and stability in your relationships.
All the tools you need to lay the foundation for strong and lasting relationships—The Attachment Theory Workbook.
Fall in Love, Stay in Love
Willard F. Harley Jr. - 2001
Harley's blockbuster book "His Needs, Her Needs" has helped more than a million couples meet each other's needs and fall in love all over again. But that's only part of what makes a spectacular marriage, according to Harley. To stay in love, couples must protect each other and the love they've created. Harley fans have already been introduced to the Love Bank, emotional needs, Love Busters, and fair negotiation. So how do these key concepts work together to strengthen marriages? "Fall in Love, Stay in Love" has the answer--a complete, step-by-step overview that will leave fans saying "aha!" and new readers ready for more from this respected author. In his new book, Harley promises that if couples are willing to form habits that create love and control instincts that destroy it, they can have the love-filled marriages they've always wanted. Then he sits down with readers to guide them through his tried and proven plan. With profound insights, probing questions, and practical action steps, the man who has helped save scores of marriages leads readers down the road to a love that lasts a lifetime.
Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others
Laura Van Dernoot Lipsky - 2007
We may feel tired, cynical, numb, or like we can never do enough. These, and other symptoms, affect us individually and collectively, sapping the energy and effectiveness we so desperately need if we are to benefit humankind, other animals, and the planet itself. Through Trauma Stewardship, we are called to meet these challenges in an intentional way--not by becoming overwhelmed but by developing a quality of mindful presence. Joining the wisdom of ancient cultural traditions with modern psychological research, Lipsky offers a variety of simple and profound practices that will allow us to remake ourselves--and ultimately the world.
The Parallel Process: Growing Alongside Your Adolescent or Young Adult Child in Treatment
Krissy Pozatek - 2010
However, just as the teenager is embarking on a journey of self-discovery, skill-development, and emotional maturation, so parents too need to use this time to recognize that their own patterns may have contributed to their family’s downward spiral. This is The Parallel Process.Using case studies garnered from her many years as an adolescent and family therapist, Krissy Pozatek shows parents of pre-teens, adolescents, and young adults how they can help their children by attuning to emotions, setting limits, not rushing to their rescue, and allowing them to take responsibility for their actions, while recognizing their own patterns of emotional withdrawal, workaholism, and of surrendering their lives and personalities to parenting. As such, The Parallel Process is an essential primer for all parents, whether of troubled teens or not, who are seeking to help the family stay and grow together as they negotiate the potentially difficult teenage years.
The First Will Be Last: A Biblical Perspective On Narcissism
D.C. Robertsson - 2019
Maybe you didn’t realize you were dealing with a narcissist at first, but the pain and damage caused by this selfish, arrogant, condescending, and domineering person might have driven you to search for answers about what was going on, and how to deal with them. As you searched online or in books, you collected the conventional wisdom available, but feel there is still more to it. While the Bible does not use the exact term "narcissism" - a word from Greek mythology - it most certainly speaks to the subject. In fact, if you look carefully, you might be surprised at just how much and how directly Scripture speaks about narcissism and narcissistic people.The First Will Be Last: A Biblical Perspective on Narcissism is just what the title says - an A-Z look at the Biblical perspective on these toxic people; including who they are, how they got that way, and how to deal with them. From key words to Biblical case studies, it will unlock a new perspective and provide a framework in your search for truth.CONTENTSLET’S BEGIN How to Read this Book WHO SHOULD I LISTEN TO?
The Range of Perspectives
The Secular Perspective on Narcissism
There’s Another Option
THE BIBLICAL PROFILE OF A NARCISSIST
Painting the Biblical Picture
Layer 1 - Key Words and Definitions
Layer 2 – Key Word Usage
Layer 3 – Case Studies in the Bible
Enhancing the Portrait
Additional Case Studies
THREE QUESTIONS
#1 - Can A Narcissist Be a Christian (& vice versa)?
#2 - Do They Really “Get Away With It”?
#3 - Can A Narcissist Ever Change?
CAUSES – ONE ROOT, SEVERAL BRANCHES
The Root Cause
Four Examples
Ultimately They Look In, Not Up
A PATH TO GENUINE CHANGE
The Foundation
God’s Radical Revelations
Making it Real
Choices
COPING WITH NARCISSISTS
God’s Responsibility…and Ours
Protect Yourself
Be Smart in Your Interactions
Learn to Pray in the Situation
Practical Solutions … and God’s Grand Plan
FROM WHY, TO HOPE, TO LOVE
Asking “Why”
God’s Plan for A Purpose of Love
The Four Pillars of Trust
Turning Tears into a Life-giving Spring
Why to Hope to Love
YOUR JOURNEY FORWARD
Crying Out, Seeking God
Praying
Walking Forward
Coming Full Circle
Written by someone who understands the journey, this book starts with discovery, and ends with comfort. NOTE: The Amazon "Look Inside" formatting does not accurately represent the much higher quality format of the actual Kindle book.
It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand
Megan Devine - 2017
Having experienced grief from both sides—as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner—Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, "happy" life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. On this unabridged audio recording read by the author, Megan offers stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices to guide us through an experience we all must face. With Megan’s gentle but direct guidance, you’ll learn: • Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief • How challenging the myths of grief—doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold—allows us to accept it as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve • Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to "fix" your pain Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to "solve" grief. Megan writes, "Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution." It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better.
Mars and Venus Together Forever: Relationship Skills for Lasting Love in Committed Relationships
John Gray - 1994
Mars and Venus Together Forever educates the different sexes on:What your mother couldn't tell you and your father didn't knowWhat women need most and men really wantHow men and women think and feel differentlyThe language barrier -- men speak "male" and women speak "female"The seven secrets of lasting passionAnd much moreFilled with lively anecdotes, revealing exercises, and profound common sense, Mars and Venus Together Forever will help men and women explore new frontiers in their relationships, communicate effectively with each other, and discover the secret of "happily ever after."