Best of
Relationships

1994

Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love


Robert Karen - 1994
    How are our personalities formed? How do our early struggles with our parents reappear in the way we relate to others as adults?In Becoming Attached, Robert Karen offers fresh insight into some of the most fundamental issues of emotional life. He explores such questions as: * What do children need to feel that the world is a positive place and that they have value? * What are the risks of day care for children under one year of age, and what can parents do to manage those risks? * What experiences in infancy will enable a person to develop healthy relationships as an adult?Becoming Attached is not just a voyage of discovery in child emotional development and its pertinence to adult life but a voyage of personal discovery as well, for it is impossible to read this book without reflecting on one's own life as a child, a parent, and an intimate partner in love or marriage.

The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment


Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman - 1994
    Narcissistic families have a parental system that is, for whatever reason (job stress, alcoholism, drug abuse, mental illness, physical disability, lack of parenting skills, self-centered immaturity), primarily involved in getting its own needs met. The children in such narcissistic family systems try to earn love, attention and approval by satisfying their parents' needs, thus never developing the ability to recognize their own needs or create strategies for getting them met. By outlining the theoretical framework of their model and using dozens of illustrative clinical examples, the authors clearly illuminate specific practice guidelines for treating these individuals. Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman is a therapist, consultant, and trainer. She is known for her work with dysfunctional families, particularly with survivors of incest. Robert M. Pressman is the editor-in-chief and president of the Joint Commission for the Development of the Treatment and Statistical Manual for Behavioral and Mental Disorders.

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last


John M. Gottman - 1994
    Now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen, and maintain your own long-term relationship.This breakthrough book guides you through a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage. You'll also learn that more sex doesn't necessarily improve a marriage, frequent arguing will not lead to divorce, financial problems do not always spell trouble in a relationship, wives who make sour facial expressions when their husbands talk are likely to be separated within four years and there is a reason husbands withdraw from arguments—and there's a way around it. Dr. Gottman teaches you how to recognize attitudes that doom a marriage—contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling—and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. You can avoid patterns that lead to divorce, and—Why Marriages Succeed or Fail will show you how.

The Evolution Of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating


David M. Buss - 1994
    Based on the most massive study of human mating ever undertaken, encompassing more than 10,000 people of all ages from thirty-seven cultures worldwide, The Evolution of Desire is the first book to present a unified theory of human mating behavior.Now in an updated edition with two new chapters by the author, The Evolution of Desire presents the latest research in the field, including starting new discoveries about the evolutionary advantages of infidelity, orgasm, and physical attractiveness.

When God Writes Your Love Story


Eric Ludy - 1994
    When God Writes Your Love Story shows that God's way to true love brings fulfillment and romance in its purest, richest, and most satisfying form. This new edition includes an extra chapter from Leslie Ludy about the surprises of life after marriage!“I had dreamed of a perfect love story for my entire life. But somewhere in the midst of the endless cycle of temporary romances, my dreams had shattered.” How can I find a love worth waiting for? Lay the foundation now—whether you’ve met your future spouse or not—for a lifelong romance. Bestselling authors Eric and Leslie Ludy invite you to discover how beautiful your love story can be when the Author of romance scripts every detail. Story Behind the BookEric and Leslie Ludy want to offer an exciting vision of hope, proving that the Author of romance is alive and well and that true and lasting love can become a reality. Using the “four secrets to an amazing love story,” Eric and Leslie present a Christ-centered approach to building a relationship that will stand the test of time.From the Trade Paperback edition.

Nanny


Charlotte Bingham - 1994
    But then, quite unexpectedly, a family tragedy obliges Grace to abandon her artistic talents and enter a life in service at the Hall. In this Upstairs Downstairs world of sadistic housekeepers and drunken butlers there is genuine hardship and drudgery for those employed in servicing the few.But Grace soon discovers that she has another talent when, through the merest chance, she manages to escape from the kitchen to the nursery floor. Here she learns to love Lady Lydiard's children as her own. Here, too, she learns her first lesson as a woman, that passion and sacrifice make awkward bedfellows. But if the love of her life, Brake Merrowby, brings her more sorrow than joy, her love for the children more than compensates for her enforced isolation in their world of muffins and rocking horses. As change reaches out to touch the great house, the realities of war leave their mark on the family. Yet for the children, grown and growing, when they stop to look back at the top-floor window they see only their nanny. Almost as if part of the fabric of the building, Grace grows to become not just the touchstone of their lives but in essence the mistress of the house itself.

Love from the Heart of the Home: A Keepsake Book


Susan Branch - 1994
    This Keepsake Book features recipes and paintings for Valentine's Day -- or any day that love is in the air. Ribbon marker.

The New Bottoming Book


Dossie Easton - 1994
    Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players. Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book gives even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular bottom!

Good Vibrations Guide to Sex: The Most Complete Sex Manual Ever Written


Cathy Winks - 1994
    For ALL readers--women and men, heterosexual or lesbian, gay, or bisexual--this candid, upbeat guide offers expert advice on all aspects of sexuality:• How to talk about sex and keep your relationships sizzling• Orgasms--G-spot, female ejaculation, and multiple orgasms for both men and women• "If you want the job done right, do it yourself"--Expanded section on masturbation• NEW! Sex Over a Lifetime--Growing up, coming out, pregnancy, parenting, midlife cycles, and aging• NEW! Teens Sexual Bill of Rights• Real stories--Hundreds of real people talk about real sex• NEW! Dealing with disability, depression and other medical issues• Fantasy--Favorite themes, games, and power play• Comprehensive guide to erotica....in print, on screen, and on the internet• NEW! Latest sex toy innovations from cyberskin to microchips• Complete guide to vibrators, dildos, lubricants, and other sex gear, and how to introduce sex toys into your sexual repertoirr

Love Cards: What Your Birthday Reveals about You and Your Personal Relationships


Robert Lee Camp - 1994
    Did you ever wonder why some people are afraid of commitment and others always put work before love? Is the woman you met last night right for you? Why does your spouse put household chores before sex? Why is your best friend an incurable romantic? The newly discovered fortune telling system in Love Cards offers explanations for why we are the way we are and reveals the secret truths about our love life. First, use your birthdate to find your birth card. Discover everything from karma you might be carrying from a past life to which celebrities share your card. Then check out your lovers', family's and friends' cards. Your compatibility chart will tell you who is destined to be your soulmate and who will break your heart. --Find out exactly who you are compatible with in love, sex, romance & marriage.--Learn quickly how to do a complete relationship reading between any two people.--Find out how your Karma and Past Life cards affect your present relationships.--Discover why you have chosen past partners and learn to make better decisions.--Explore the real reasons for your attractions--it's really card chemistry!

Range Of Motion


Elizabeth Berg - 1994
    It's easy to say how it happened. He walked past a building, and a huge chunk of ice fell off the roof, and it hit him in the head. This is Chaplinesque, right? People start to laugh when I tell them-'As Jay Berman lingers in a coma, his young wife, Lainey, is the only one who believes he will recover. While he lies motionless, she hopes to reach him by offering reminders of the ordinary life they shared - sweet-smelling flowers, his softly textured shirt, spices from their kitchen. And throughout her ordeal, Lainey is sustained by her relationship with two very special women, each of whom teaches her about the enduring bond of friendship and the genuine power of hope.

Fighting for Your Marriage: Positive Steps for Preventing Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love


Howard J. Markman - 1994
    Groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up. Based on twenty years of university research, this popular book will show you how to: * Talk more and fight less * Deepen and protect your friendship * Have a more intimate, sensual relationship * Keep the fun alive * Clarify and act on your priorities * Develop a vision for your future together

Woman, Thou Art Loosed! : Healing the Wounds of the Past--Workbook


T.D. Jakes - 1994
    Jakes coupled with the timeless message of Scripture has made another CBA #1 Best-seller. Holy Bible, Woman Thou Art Loosed! Edition contains 150 full-page articles, Gospel Pearls, powerful in-text quotations and excerpts from Bishop Jakes' teaching, "A Woman's Guide to Bible Reading," "Prayers for Women," a directory to biblical women, a concordance, and much more. Countless women of all ages, races, and denominations have found these unique features to be the resource they need to find healing and wholeness in their Savior. Now available in paperback and a convenient and stylish shoulder strap edition.

Embracing the Beloved: Relationship as a Path of Awakening


Stephen Levine - 1994
    Their work has affected healing and medical practices worldwide. In Embracing the Beloved, the Levines turn their attention to what has been our most significant spiritual commitment--our own relationship.In this groundbreaking book, they demonstrate how to use a relationship as a means for profound inner growth and healing. Their insights and anecdotes will benefit all who are drawn to looking inward, and all who seek a relationship as a path for spiritual renewal and merciful awareness of life.

Bridie and Finn


Harry Cauley - 1994
    She is fearless, willing to say anything that comes into her mind, and everything about her is messy and a little off. It is love at first sight for Finn, but it will be almost a decade before he is ready to admit it. In graceful and seamless prose, Harry Gauley captures the world of a close-knit urban community and a way of life that exists no more.

Why Do Christians Shoot Their Wounded?: Helping (Not Hurting) Those With Emotional Difficulties


Dwight L. Carlson - 1994
    Thousands of Christians suffer real emotional pain--such as depression, anxiety, obsessiveness. Many other Christians, including prominent leaders, believe emotional problems are the result of sin or bad choices. These attitudes often only add to the suffering of those who hurt. In this book Dwight Carlson marshals recent scientific evidence that demonstrates many emotional problems are just as physical or biological as diabetes, cancer and heart disease. While he never discounts personal responsibility, Carlson shows from both the Bible and up-to-date medicine why it really is no sin to hurt. Understandably and compellingly, Why Do Christians Shoot Their Wounded? brings profound help for those who hurt and those who counsel. For those who suffer, here is a powerful liberation from guilt. For those who care for the suffering, here is vivid proof that those in emotional pain deserve compassion, not condemnation.

Promised Lands: A Novel of the Texas Rebellion


Elizabeth Crook - 1994
    Crook retraces the movement of General Santa Anna's Mexican Army in 1836 as it sweeps north to quash the Texas Rebellion, led by Sam Houston. Among Houston's ragtag militia are Dr. Hugh Kenner and his two sons. As the rebel forces make a desperate stand at Goliad, the Kenners and Adelaido and Crucita Pecheco find they have much to teach each other about loyalty and betrayal, sin and retribution.

Soul Mates: Honouring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship


Thomas Moore - 1994
    Moore emphasizes the difficulties that inevitably accompany many relationships and focuses on the need to work through these differences in order to experience the deep reward that comes with intimacy and unconfined love.

The 10 Greatest Gifts I Give My Children: Parenting from the Heart


Steven W. Vannoy - 1994
    Steven Vannoy’s unique parenting style is designed to create a harmonious family atmosphere with self-esteem, compassion, balance, humor, communication, integrity, responsibility, conscious choice, and full expression of emotions. And parents are not the only ones who have benefitted from Vannoy’s wisdom: in the years since the book was first published, Vannoy has used the principles in this book to help businesses worldwide create healthier and more fulfilling workplaces. With updated principles and a new foreword by the author, this twentieth anniversary edition will help both new and old readers of The 10 Greatest Gifts I Give My Children build better relationships with their children and colleagues both in the office and at home.

Snare: Understanding Emotional and Sexual Entanglements


Lois Mowday Rabey - 1994
    And most of them think it could never happen to them. But because they don't recognize the subtle danger signs, they can suddenly find themselves in a dangerous relationship--with devastating consequences. In this startling book, the author gives a clear look at the paths to sexual immorality using real-life accounts of Christians.

Boundary Power: How I Treat You, How I Let You Treat Me, How I Treat Myself


Mike O'Neil - 1994
    You can take charge of your life, strengthen your character, expand your freedom, improve your marriage, and other personal relationships by learning by how to set personal boundaries in your life. The book includes: - clear definition of all boundaries as they relate to you relationally, spiritually, physically, sexually and emotionally - where you learn boundaries, the different kinds of boundaries, and the types of people with boundary problems - key questions to help you discover your own boundary problems - exercises that will help you resolve loses associated with abuses - exercises that will help you set clear healthy boundaries in all your relationships

Sheldon and Mrs. Levine, An Excruciating Correspondence


Sam Bobrick - 1994
    Levine to Sheldon. Letters exchanged on most significant holidays are ploys for generating laughter.

The Tribute and the Promise: How Honoring Your Parents Will Bring a Blessing to Your Life


Dennis Rainey - 1994
    Rainey will challenge you to grasp the depth of honoring one's father and mother and shows you the impact it can have on both your life and the life of your parents.

Getting Them Sober, volume one -- You CAN help! (Getting Them Sober)


Toby Rice Drews - 1994
    Over a million copies sold -- this book is endorsed by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, by 'dear Abby' (''this book should be read by everyone''), and by Melody Beattie (author of Codependent No More) who said "'Getting Them Sober' is the BEST book for families of the still-drinking alcoholic.'' From the Introduction to the book --- "While the alcoholic lies passed out, anesthetized, the family goes through the years of his drinking --- stark, raving sober. They believe lies, expect miracles, have him locked up, bail him out, wish he were dead, and pray that he gets home safely. If the spouse of the alcoholic changes his or her behavior, as outlined in this book, the alcoholic has an 80 percent better chance to get sober."CHAPTER TITLES INCLUDE--- * No more taking the blame for someone else's drinking! * Be gentle with yourself * Don't worry about whether he's really an alcoholic * Don't pour out the booze * Learn to relax * Don't be afraid of losing him because you're changing * Stop arguing with him (it works!) * Do one thing every day just for yourself * Use tough love * Don't ride with him when he's drunk * Confront him! * Walk away from abuse * Accept yourself * Don't believe "Drunk Is Fun!" * Tell your families? Only if you want to! * Mean what you say and say what you mean * Deal with his arrogance! * Don't change your address! * Hide the car keys? * You have the right to get sick too! * Learn about blackouts * Try to remember it's a disease * Let the crises happen * No more lying to his boss! * Start to get help---- Even though he's the alcoholic * Stay with him or leave him "Just for today" * Break out of your isolation * Stop asking permission! * Act as if you love you * Put him in the back of your mind * Don't feel guilty when you're mad! * Forget his bad mouth * Don't say you're changing-----just do it * Stop telling him how to get sober (don't talk to brick walls, either) * Don't get scared when he threatens to drink * Wipe out saying, "you've been drinking again!" * Don't expect him to be sober * Stop checking the bars * Don't beg him to stay * Don't be scared that he will leave if he gets well * Getting Help * Sex and alcoholism * A Quick Test--- Are you an alcoholic? * Reflection Guide * Resource DirectoryTOBY DREWS' OTHER BOOKS ON KINDLE--The other books in this award-winning series are "Getting Them Sober, volume 2" (more on total family healing) ---- "Getting Them Sober, volume 3'' (half the book details the 350 secondary diseases // disorders to alcoholism) --- "Getting Them Sober, volume 4'' (hidden issues before and after separation/divorce in alcoholism) ---- "Getting Your Children Sober" (for parents of children aged 9 to 59 who have addiction problems) --- "Sex and the Sober Alcoholic" --- "Answering the Crazymaking'' ---- and ''Get Rid of Anxiety and Stress"ABOUT THE AUTHOR ----Toby Rice Drews trains counselors, writes, and offers phone consultations to family members worldwide.

Human Capability: A Study of Individual Potential and Its Application


Elliott Jaques - 1994
    Reporting research that provides an invaluable tool for utilizing individual capability, it makes it possible for talent pool development programs to effectively meet the organization's future human resource requirements.

The Tribute: What Every Parent Longs to Hear--


Dennis Rainey - 1994
    Now it's time for adult sons and daughters to give back to their parents. The Tribute will help adult children strengthen and restore relationships with their parents and build a solid foundation for the future.

Loving Against The Odds: For Every Man And Every Woman In Every Marriage. Creating the Marriage You've Always Wanted


Rob Parsons - 1994
    For every man and every woman in every marriage

Just One Fool Thing After Another: A Cowfolk's Guide to Romance


Gladiola Montana - 1994
    Gladiola and Texas speak nuggets of humorous wisdoms like these: "Love is a bumpy trail, but it promises a scenic ride." "A stone stops rolling when it lands near the kinda moss it's been looking to gather." "Life is not bearable with the opposite sex, until it is unbearable without 'em."