Each step in the meditation practice (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) is brought to life by memorable stories shared by Tara and her students as they deal with feelings of overwhelm, loss, and self-aversion, with painful relationships, and past trauma--and as they discover step-by-step the sources of love, forgiveness, compassion, and deep wisdom alive within all of us.

    . . .a woman whose dead aunt was made into a mummy so the family could better grieve her passing and on occasion dine with her at family gatherings . . . a man wants his nose cut off to escape an annoying smell that haunts him . . . a teenage boy would only come to therapy if he could bring his pet snake."These and other fascinating and revealing stories are told by some of the most famous therapists in the world. Collected in this extraordinary book, well known practitioners recount the most memorable case histories of their illustrious careers. Engaging and surprising stories of human behavior are dramatically and often humorously portrayed. Each chapter gives a behind-the-scenes look at how therapists work with clients whose problems and behaviors aren't found in standard psychology textbooks. The book also shows how these eminent therapists often cure these apparently intractable problems and learn something about themselves in the process.1 The Man Who Wanted His Nose Cut Off / Jeffrey A. Kottler 7 --2 The Mummy at the Dining Room Table / Jon Carlson 21 --3 Buzzy Bee's Oral Fixation / Frank Pittman 32 --4 An Oedipal Dilemma / Arnold Lazarus 45 --5 The Urge to Eat from Garbage Cans / William Glasser 55 --6 The Penis That Needed Permission from the Church / Domeena Renshaw 66 --7 Therapy with a Gopher Snake and a Horned Lizard / Violet Oaklander 74 --8 Getting Rid of Old Junk / Harville Hendrix 84 --9 The Terminator Finds Himself on a Mental Ward / Scott Miller 95 --10 They Learned to Live with Ghosts / Insoo Kim Berg 105 --11 The Woman Who Should Have Been Depressed / Michael Yapko 115 --12 The Woman Who Hated Everyone and Everything / Albert Ellis 126 --13 The Medicine Man Who Never Had a Vision / Bradford Keeney 136 --14 The Woman Who Hanged Herself to Check Her Husband's Response Time / Susan Johnson 147 --15 The Hip-Nose Doctor Finds the Michael Jackson Tickets / Ernest Rossi 157 --16 The Lawyer from Hell / Arthur Freeman 166 --17 Reconstructing the Jigsaw Puzzle of a Meter Man's Memory / Robert A. Neimeyer 178 --18 An Emergency Hypnosis to Solve the Crime at the Burger Joint / Pat Love 191 --19 Beauty and the Beast / Samuel Gladding 199 --20 The Lie That Hid in His Back / Gay Hendricks 208 --21 The Client Who Wanted His Therapist to Be Someone Else / Howard Kirschenbaum 217 --22 The Bride Wore a Tuxedo, the Groom Wore a Gown / Joel Bergman 228 --23 Recovering from Recovered Memories / David Scharff 238 --24 Panic Disorder from Sewer Grates, Amusement Parks, and Sex with Ministers / Howard Rosenthal 249 --25 The Eighty-Two-Year-Old Prostitute / Jay Haley 257 --26 Saved by a Ghost / Stephen Lankton 264 --27 He'll Always Be Black / James F.T. Bugental 275 --28 "I Wouldn't Mind Being That Guy in the Mirror" / Michael Mahoney 279 --29 The Three-Year-Old Who Was an Alcoholic / Laura S. Brown 291 --30 Every Parent's Worst Nightmare / Donald Meichenbaum 299 --31 The Third Sexual Identity / Peggy Papp 305 --32 The Bird Colonel Who Turned into an Elephant / Len Sperry 316

    Drawing on over thirty years of experience as a psychotherapist, analyst, and teacher, Dr. Gaylin addresses the fundamentals of the therapeutic process: How does therapy work? Can "talking" truly precipitate a change in behavior? Why do therapists rely so heavily on childhood experiences? Does the past really affect the present? Gaylin speaks plainly but profoundly about the art of therapy, what the roles of the patient and therapist should be, and what it takes, on the part of each, for a patient to get better. The result is an enlightening tour through one of the most misunderstood sciences of our time. As insurance companies limit the number of therapy sessions they will cover and people look for quick-fix "cures" for their psychological ailments, Dr. Gaylin explains the importance of long-term therapy. This book has a natural audience of people in therapy. Current estimates put this number at 15 million.

    "Though we’ve been raised to believe that healthy people have a single ‘self,’" explains Dr. Richard C. Schwartz, "acknowledging our multiplicity gives a far deeper awareness of how our minds actually work." Dr. Schwartz’s pioneering Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy has become renowned in psychotherapy for its power to help us connect with and heal the many distinct facets—or parts—of our psyche. With Greater Than the Sum of Our Parts, he brings you a practical training course for using this method for your growth, well-being, and especially your spiritual journey.Embracing Your Inner Diversity as a Path to Wholeness One of the key lessons of IFS therapy is that there are no bad parts. "Trauma or life experience can cause our parts to take on burdens," says Dr. Schwartz. "Yet when we bring the spiritual values of curiosity, gratitude, and kindness to these burdened parts, we discover incredible opportunities for healing and awakening." Through instruction and guided meditations, Dr. Schwartz shows us how to engage even the most disturbing or unwanted parts of our psyche with openness and love—so we may unlock the hidden gifts and wisdom each part contains. Many forms of therapy and even spiritual practice inadvertently put us in conflict with ourselves as we try to transcend or reject our parts. With Greater Than the Sum of Our Parts, Dr. Schwartz invites you to embrace each of your many parts with self-compassion—and discover the inclusive greater Self that is your true, divine nature.HIGHLIGHTS • Guided meditations to help you meet, dialogue with, and heal your parts • Parts as sacred beings—self-love, wholeness, and the spiritual dimension of IFS • How parts are formed and why they can become distorted by trauma and burdens • Why denigrating the "ego," "false self," and "monkey mind" undermines inner harmony • Becoming a wise and trusted leader of your many parts • How working with your exiled parts awakens your capacity for compassion, presence, and unconditional love

    It is far easier to provide a series of classes while ignoring the more challenging personal components of training. Despite the fact that the therapist's self-insight, emotional maturity, and calm centeredness are critical for successful psychotherapy, rote knowledge and technical skills are the focus of most training programs. As a result, the therapist's personal growth is either marginalized or ignored. The Making of a Therapist counters this trend by offering graduate students and beginning therapists a personal account of this important inner journey.Cozolino provides a unique look inside the mind and heart of an experienced therapist. Readers will find an exciting and privileged window into the experience of the therapist who, like themselves, is just starting out. In addition, The Making of a Therapist contains the practical advice, common-sense wisdom, and self-disclosure that practicing professionals have found to be the most helpful during their own training.The first part of the book, 'Getting Through Your First Sessions,' takes readers through the often-perilous days and weeks of conducting initial sessions with real clients. Cozolino addresses such basic concerns as: Do I need to be completely healthy myself before I can help others? What do I do if someone comes to me with an issue or problem I can't handle? What should I do if I have trouble listening to my clients? What if a client scares me?The second section of the book, 'Getting to Know Your Clients,' delves into the routine of therapy and the subsequent stages in which you continue to work with clients and help them. In this context, Cozolino presents the notion of the 'good enough' therapist, one who can surrender to his or her own imperfections while still guiding the therapeutic relationship to a positive outcome.The final section, 'Getting to Know Yourself,' goes to the core of the therapist's relation to him- or herself, addressing such issues as: How to turn your weaknesses into strengths, and how to deal with the complicated issues of pathological caretaking, countertransference, and self-care.Both an excellent introduction to the field as well as a valuable refresher for the experienced clinician, The Making of a Therapist offers readers the tools and insight that make the journey of becoming a therapist a rich and rewarding experience.

    Death and illness touch us all, but even the everyday sufferings of loneliness and fear are traumatic. In The Trauma of Everyday Life renowned psychiatrist and author of Thoughts Without a Thinker Mark Epstein uncovers the transformational potential of trauma, revealing how it can be used for the mind’s own development.Western psychology teaches that if we understand the cause of trauma, we might move past it while many drawn to Eastern practices see meditation as a means of rising above, or distancing themselves from, their most difficult emotions. Both, Epstein argues, fail to recognize that trauma is an indivisible part of life and can be used as a lever for growth and an ever deeper understanding of change. When we regard trauma with this perspective, understanding that suffering is universal and without logic, our pain connects us to the world on a more fundamental level. The way out of pain is through it. Epstein’s discovery begins in his analysis of the life of Buddha, looking to how the death of his mother informed his path and teachings. The Buddha’s spiritual journey can be read as an expression of primitive agony grounded in childhood trauma. Yet the Buddha’s story is only one of many in The Trauma of Everyday Life. Here, Epstein looks to his own experience, that of his patients, and of the many fellow sojourners and teachers he encounters as a psychiatrist and Buddhist. They are alike only in that they share in trauma, large and small, as all of us do. Epstein finds throughout that trauma, if it doesn’t destroy us, wakes us up to both our minds’ own capacity and to the suffering of others. It makes us more human, caring, and wise. It can be our greatest teacher, our freedom itself, and it is available to all of us.

    The major counseling approaches are applied to a single client to show you each therapeutic approach in action and help clear up any misconceptions you might have. The new Expert Theory Case Analysis Web Site provides you with the opportunity to practice applying various approaches to a range of simulated cases in an interactive format.

    Greenberg provides a thorough introduction to this feeling-centered, humanistic approach to therapy. Emotion-focused therapy emphasizes the awareness, acceptance, and understanding of emotion, and proposes that emotions themselves have an adaptive potential that, if activated, can help clients to change.

    Master clinician Karen J. Maroda adds an important dimension to the psychodynamic literature by exploring the role of both clients' and therapists' emotional experiences in the process of therapy. The book discusses how to become more attuned to one's own experience of a client; offer direct feedback and self-disclosure in the service of treatment goals; and manage intense feelings and conflict in the relationship. Specific techniques are illustrated with vivid case examples. Maroda clearly distinguishes between therapeutic and nontherapeutic ways to work with emotion in this candid and instructive guide.

    A varied mix of essays, book chapters, case histories, and compelling fiction written by veterans of both sides of "the couch" and representing many schools of thought, Inside Therapy includes: Janet Malcolm's The Impossible Profession * Mark Epstein's Thoughts Without a Thinker * Eric Fromm's The Art of Listening * A. M. Homes's In a Country of Mothers * Theodore Reik's The Third Ear * and others. The foreword by Irvin D. Yalom, author of Love's Executioner, offers additional wisdom, humor, and perspective.At a time when managed care threatens the psychoanalytic tradition, this dramatic, inspiring collection reminds us of the healing power of insight and the unique gifts of the patient-therapist relationship.

    Focusing on the concept of 'relational depth', authors Dave Mearns and Mick Cooper describe a form of encounter in which therapist and client experience profound feelings of contact and engagement with each other and in which the client has an opportunity to explore whatever is experienced as most fundamental to her or his existence.

    (The somewhat confusing title is from a line in Zorba the Greek in which the title character refers to the ups and downs of family life as "the full catastrophe.") But this book is also a terrific introduction for anyone who has considered meditating but was afraid it would be too difficult or would include religious practices they found foreign. Kabat-Zinn focuses on "mindfulness," a concept that involves living in the moment, paying attention, and simply "being" rather than "doing." While you can practice anything "mindfully," from taking a walk to cleaning your house, Kabat-Zinn presents several meditation techniques that focus the attention most clearly, whether it's on a simple phrase, your breathing, or various parts of your body. The book goes into detail about how hospital patients have either improved their health or simply come to feel better despite their illness by using these techniques, but these meditations can help anyone deal with stress and gain a calmer outlook on life. "When we use the word healing to describe the experiences of people in the stress clinic, what we mean above all is that they are undergoing a profound transformation of view," Kabat-Zinn writes. "Out of this shift in perspective comes an ability to act with greater balance and inner security in the world." --Ben Kallenreissue 2005

    McLean bravely shares his paranoid delusions and offers both a verbal and a visual experience by including digital artwork he created to help objectify and control his impulses and fears. As McLean relates his experiences step by step, issues of sexuality, identity, and drug abuse are discussed, along with the overarching issues relating to mental health and the medical profession. Messages from online posters who either have suffered from mental illness or have cared for the mentally ill are included throughout, adding more perspectives to the author's personal experiences. This powerful combination of words and pictures provides a unique and poignant insight into a hidden, internal world.

    Patricia Love, a ground-breaking work that identifies, explores and treats the harmful effects that emotionally and psychologically invasive parents have on their children, and provides a program for overcoming the chronic problems that can result.

    Hakomi work incorporates the idea of respect for the wisdom of each individual as a living organic system, organizing matter and energy to maintain its goals, and identity. It is written with clarity, humor and simplicity; sure to inspire and give insight to both therapists and laypersons.