When this groundbreaking book first appeared over ten years ago, Dr. Ackerman identified behavior patterns shared by daughters of alcoholics. Adult daughters of alcoholics—"perfect daughters" —operate from a base of harsh and limiting views of themselves and the world. Having learned that they must function perfectly in order to avoid unpleasant situations, these women often assume responsibility for the failures of others. They are drawn to chemically dependent men and are more likely to become addicted themselves. More than just a text that identifies these behavior patterns, this book collects the thoughts, feelings and experiences of twelve hundred perfect daughters, offering readers an opportunity to explore their own life's dynamics and thereby heal and grow. This edition contains updated information throughout the text, and completely new material, including chapters on eating disorders and abuse letters from perfect daughters in various stages of recovery, and helpful, affirming suggestions from Dr. Ackerman at the end of every chapter. This book is essential for every one who found validation, hope, courage and support in the pages of the original Perfect Daughters, as well as new readers and every therapist who confronts these issues. Also includes: a comprehensive reference section and complete index.

    At the core of this book is the understanding of how trauma is imprinted on the body, brain, and spirit, resulting in anxiety, nightmares, depression, physical illnesses, addictions, hyperactivity, and aggression. Rich with case studies and hands-on activities, Trauma Through A Child’s Eyes gives insight into children’s innate ability to rebound with the appropriate support, and provides their caregivers with tools to overcome and prevent trauma.

    Taking a radical departure from traditional views of God, Western or Eastern, author Kevin Griffin neither accepts Christian beliefs in a Supreme Being nor Buddhist non-theism, but rather forges a refreshing, sensible, and accessible Middle Way. Griffin shows how the Dharma, the teachings of the Buddha, can be understood as a Higher Power. Karma, mindfulness, impermanence, and the Eightfold Path itself are revealed as powerful forces that can be accessed through meditation and inquiry.Drawing from his own experiences with substance abuse, rehabilitation, and recovery, Griffin looks at the various ways that meditation and spiritual practices helped deepen his experience of sobriety. His personal story of addiction is not only raw, honest and engrossing, but guides readers to an inquiry of their own spirituality. In doing so, he poses profound questions, including:·         How can I understand God from a Buddhist perspective?·         How can I “turn my will and my life over” as a Buddhist?·         How can this idea of God “remove my shortcomings”?·         How do I learn this God’s “will”?

    

    A special emphasis on the needs of new and struggling teachers includes practical actions for earning student respect and teaching them behavior management skills. The author also introduces a real-time coaching model and explains how to establish a schoolwide Assertive Discipline(r) program.

    These five core capacities are associated with biologically based core needs that are essential to our physical and emotional well-being: the needs for connection, attunement, trust, autonomy, and love-sexuality. Recognizing these needs as well as five Adaptive Survival Styles set in motion when the core needs are not met early in life, authors Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre cut through the seeming complexity of life’s problems.   Explaining that an impaired capacity for connection to self and to others and the ensuing diminished aliveness are the hidden dimensions that underlie most psychological and many physiological problems, they introduce the NeuroAffective Relational Model® (NARM), a resource-oriented, psychodynamically informed approach that, while not ignoring a person’s past, emphasizes working in the present moment. NARM uses somatic mindfulness to re-regulate the nervous system and to resolve identity distortions—such as low self-esteem, shame, and chronic self-judgment—caused by developmental and relational trauma. Heller and LaPierre demonstrate how this therapy helps clients establish connection to the parts of self that are organized, coherent and functional, integrating the role of connection on all levels of experience as it affects a person's physiology, psychology, and capacity for relationship.From the Trade Paperback edition.

    I demonstrate how day-to-day thoughts and actions can plant karmic seeds in your life that will either blossom like flowers or take over like weeds. This book will guide you into a deep understanding of your own karma and give you the tools to heal the past and discover a more joyful future.”–CARMEN HARRAThe author of Everyday Karma is one of the great psychics of our time, a veritable “karmic counselor” whose gifts have enabled her to help presidents, first ladies, Wall Street executives, royalty, and Hollywood celebrities achieve their true destinies. She predicted the collapse of the Soviet Union, John Kennedy Jr.’s death, President Clinton’s impeachment, and major karmic events around the world with better than 90 percent accuracy.Now, in Everyday Karma, she invites you to embark upon a journey of healing and enlightenment–and to start living the life that is yours alone. Through her own spiritual biography (beginning with a near-death experience when she was young), true stories from many of her clients, and her predictions of coming events, you’ll be inspired to initiate your own spiritual evolution. With powerful, specially created meditations, prayers, and visualizations, she helps you resolve your specific problems, even deeply ingrained and self-destructive ways of thinking and behaving.Unique among books about spiritual growth and healing, Everyday Karma emphasizes the great power of the karmic energy within you that is waiting to be tapped–and tells you exactly how to set it free, including how to Enter the invisible world of spirit and light Hear messages from your spirit guide Create karmic relationships Heal karmic wounds and improve your emotional and physical health Discover your karmic life purpose Bring fresh, positive, and balanced energy into your everyday worldMost of us live our entire lives with, at best, a vague sense of dissatisfaction that even great fame and wealth seem unable to dispel. This book shows you another way. The lessons that Carmen Harra learned from the invisible world and shares with you here will light your path to a transformed and deeply fulfilled life in the visible world, starting here and now.

    Featured on the Self-Care Haven website, the extended version of the article is now available in Kindle format. Many survivors of narcissistic abuse are confounded by the addiction they feel to the narcissist, long after the abusive relationship took a toll on their physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Make no mistake: recovery from an abusive relationship can be very similar to withdrawal from drug addiction due to the biochemical bonds we may develop with our toxic ex-partners. Learn how these bonds create an addiction that is difficult to break. All proceeds for this e-book go back into supportive services for survivors through Self-Care Haven. What mental health professionals are saying about this article: "Brilliant article on trauma bonds and recovering from narcissistic abuse." - Andrea Schneider, LCSW, MSW. "A must read! Perfect article to help you understand the biochemical changes in abuse." - Shannon Thomas, LCSW, Southlake Christian Counseling

    Based on studies that pinpoint the characteristics of the most effective therapists, Becoming Naturally Therapeutic shows you how to help those you care about by opening your heart and releasing the healer within. A nationally known pioneer in the area of addiction and transpersonal psychology, Jacquelyn Small shows you how to emphasize without enabling, how to care without controlling, and how by helping others in a genuine spirit of giving you invariably help yourself. She teaches how the true art of therapy lives within us all. You'll learn: The ten characteristics—from empathy and warmth to immediacy and concreteness—that all counselors need to discover within themselves. How to overcome patterns of toxic relating—the pitfalls of the preacher, judge, teacher, or savior that are barriers to true intimacy. The principle of helpful confrontation: when to use it and how. How to "straight-talk" beyond codependent ways of helping and point those in need to their own inner strength. Complete with practical exercises and sample dialogues, this clear and compassionate guide will help you let go and become the natural healer you are meant to be.

    Some people will adore the grainy texture of a pear, while others will shudder at the idea of this texture in their mouths. Touching a feather boa will be fun and luxurious to some, and others will bristle at the idea of all those feathers brushing on the skin. Noisy, busy environments will energize some people, and will overwhelm others.The author identifies four major sensory types: Seekers; Bystanders; Avoiders and Sensors. Readers can use the questionnaire to find their own patterns and the patterns of those around them, and can benefit from practical sensory ideas for individuals, families and businesses.Armed with the information in Living Sensationally, people will be able to pick just the right kind of clothing, job and home and know why they are making such choices.

    This book will appeal to the countless women who resent that their husbands never listen and that they have to nag in order to get them to do anything around the house; who feel like their husbands are always pawing at them to have sex; and who want more from their marriage. It will appeal to men who want to have more sex, less nagging, and wives who adore them. In short, Good Husband, Great Marriage is the book for everyone.Good Husband, Great Marriage is a hard-hitting, no-nonsense guidebook for men and women to help them fix their marriages. Robert Alter's central, controversial argument: the man is primarily responsible for the marital problems. Alter says to women: "You are right to want what you want from him." He says to men: "Stop thinking it's your wife's fault, and transform yourself into the good husband you know you have in you. " In 50 chapters, Alter describes the problem areas men face and what actions they can take to fix them. The chapters include: "How to Know When You're Being a Man as Opposed to When You're Being an Asshole," "How to Talk to Her," and "Your Anger: Cut the Shit." Alter's approach is straightforward and logical; he speaks to men in a language they understand. In addition, sections of the book will be geared for women where Alter will give advice to women on what they can do.

    This includes loved ones, family, and friends beginning the journey of recovery. This resource can help you understand how to help them thrive.A compassionate, user-friendly handbook for family and friends navigating the many challenges that come with a loved one's new-found sobriety. A relative or friend has finally taken those tentative first steps toward sobriety. With the relief of this life-changing course of action comes a new and difficult set of challenges for recovering addicts and those who love them. Family members and friends often find themselves unsure of how to weather such a dramatic turn, as the rules and routines of their relationships no longer pertain. Everything Changes assuages fears and uncertainty by teaching loved ones of newly recovering addicts how to navigate the often-tumultuous early months of recovery. Beverly Conyers, author of the acclaimed Addict in the Family, again shares the hope and knowledge that she gained as a parent of a recovering addict by focusing on the aftermath of addiction. She outlines the physical and psychological changes that recovering addicts go through, and offers practical tools to help family members and friends: build a fresh, rewarding relationship with the addict be supportive without setting themselves up for disappointment avoid enabling destructive behavior set and maintain boundaries cope with relapse deal with the practicalities of sober living, such as helping the addict find a job and deal with the stigma of addiction.

    You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life.Discover the four types of difficult parents:The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxietyThe driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyoneThe passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsettingThe rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory

    Her first husband, and then her second husband end up abusing her also. Later on, both her surviving children were abused, one by her ex husband, another by a trusted boyfriend. Michelle finally manages to free herself from this cycle of abuse. This is her true story of her escape. It is Michelle's hope that her story will encourage others who are trapped in abuse to seek freedom.

    What if you don’t have to pick? What if you could manage your time so effectively you could keep your job while you grow the business of your dreams? What I discovered is that in order to maximize time, you need more than just time management strategies. In addition, you will need to focus on these three elements. First is to shift your mindset around time. The beliefs you hold about time could be wrong.Second is to become aware of destructive thought patterns that occur before you indulge in time-wasting activities.Lastly is to discard the terrible habits that are robbing you of your productivity and replace them with better habits that will increase your output. This book expands on those 3 components combined with time management strategies and delivers a super effective way to eliminate the detrimental behavior that is holding you back from your true potential.  I am a full-time mother of four wonderful children, a part-time entrepreneur, a corporate employee, and a writer. As you can imagine, my hands are always full. However, I refuse to give up my dream of creating a business revolving around my passion. At the same time I make certain I am not sacrificing my health and, more importantly, the time spent with my family. The same can be true for you, too. You can keep your job while you build a business so that eventually you can ditch your job and enjoy your life. Don’t let another year go by without starting the business you have always dreamt about. Grab your copy of this book today and learn: •         What time really is and how to use it to your advantage. •         The formula to figure out the exact monetary value of your time. •         How to make sure you are always using your time for what’s important. •         How to “edit” your life and free up time. •         The most powerful way to keep you accountable for the way you spend your time. •         How to strengthen your decision muscle. •         How habits develop. •         How to switch out bad habits with productive habits. •         The 2 types of energies and how to increase them. •         How to avoid the killer of all dreams and progress. •         Lies we tell ourselves about time and how to bypass them.