How to Think More About Sex


Alain de Botton - 2012
    By examining sex from a subjective perspective, he uncovers new ideas on how we can achieve that balance.

The Threesome Handbook: Make the Most of Your Favorite Fantasy - the Ultimate Guide for Tri-Curious Singles and Couples


Victoria Vantoch - 2007
    Having finally slipped into the mainstream - on MTV, Boston Legal, Entourage, magazines, movies, and just about every respectable blog - sexuality historian and threesome dabbler Victoria Vantoch offers practical and humorous advice on our most popular fantasy. Featured in The Threesome Handbook: - The perks of three: hotter sex, more love - Strategies to prevent freak-outs, jealousy, and general messiness - How to find the perfect third - Discovering your inner queer - When a ménage turns into love - how to create a successful triad relationship - Communication skills for couples - Knowing when to break it off - And much, much more. Drawing on personal experience, historical research, advice from pros, and hundreds of interviews with veteran and novice threesome adventurers, Vantoch covers the gamut of possibilities in threesome sex and triad relationships. The Threesome Handbook is the essential road map for couples and singles to explore new territory or just spice things up in the sack.

Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving


Betty Dodson - 1987
    With warmth and intelligence, and informative line drawings, Dodson explains how anyone can learn to fully enjoy the pleasures of self-love, pointing out that masturbation is still the safest sex.

Kama Sutra: Including the Seven Spiritual Laws of Love


Deepak Chopra - 2006
    Two thousand years after the Kama Sutra was written, Chopra reveals how this surprisingly modern book can be read as an inspirational spiritual text that can help to elevate the erotic experience to new levels of spiritual ecstasy.Beautifully illustrated throughout, Deepak Chopra's Kama Sutra is a modern and definitive version of this sacred and popular text.The Kama Sutra is many things: a venerable ancient text of India; a marital aid sneaked furtively into the bedroom; and to many people throughout the ages, a scandel. But now, in an exciting new interpretation of the text, acclaimed author Deepak Chopra reveals that the Kama Sutra can also be read as an enlightening spritiual guide.For the first time, one of the world's best-loved voices on spirituality links the universal themes of sexuality in a dynamic - even controversial - way with a brand-new translation of his country's most cherished text. Deepak Chopra reveals how the Kama Sutra is not only a study of sexual pleasure, but also an inspirational spiritual text that elevates the erotic experience to new heights of ecstasy, and discovers a text that was remarkably modern for its time and one which is as relevant as ever to our lives today.Divided into three sections - including a new interpretation of the Kama Sutra as well as Aphorisms on Love and the Seven Spiritual Laws of Love - the book is stunningly illustrated throughout with beautiful, specially commisioned artwork. Deepak Chopra remains loyal t o the original Kama Sutra and his ability to uncover its profound sacredness makes this unique book a modern classic and a definitive version for generations to come.

Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them


David J. Ley - 2009
    It is called by many names, and lived in a variety of ways by different couples. The most common terms used to describe it are 'hotwife' or 'cuckold lifestyle.' This sexual practice, a form of sexual nonmonogamy, is distinguished from swinging and polyamory in that the husband rarely seeks sexual contact outside the marriage except for participation in group sex with his wife and other men, while the wife is permitted and often encouraged to pursue unrestrained sexual encounters with other men. The author includes interviews and comments from couples living the lifestyle throughout the U.S., and presents the stories in an attempt to determine the history of this sexual practice and its role in society and in relationships. He explores the psychological, social, biological, and evolutionary underpinnings of this uncommon and socially taboo behavior in an effort to make it more comprehensible to those engaged in the lifestyle and those who are just curious.

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships


Tristan Taormino - 2007
    Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships -- from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.

Tantric Quest: An Encounter with Absolute Love


Daniel Odier - 1992
    In 1968 Daniel Odier left Europe for the Himalayas, searching for a master who could help him go where texts and intellectual searching could no longer take him. He wanted everything: the wisdom and spirituality gained from the life of an ascetic and the beauty, love, and sensuality of a life of passion. He found both in Shivaic Tantrism, the secret spiritual path that seeks to transcend ego and rediscover the divine by embracing the passions. In an isolated Himalayan forest Odier met Devi, a great yogini who would take him on a mystical journey like none he had ever imagined. At times taking him beyond the limits of sexual experience, at times threatening him with destruction, she taught him what it is to truly be alive and to know the divine nature of absolute love. This is the personal memoir of one of France's most honored writers. Tantrism is the only ancient philosophy to survive all historical upheavals, invasions, and influences to reach us intact by uninterrupted transmission from master to disciple, and the only one to retain the image of the Great Goddess as the ultimate source of power.

Ultimate Guide to Fellatio: How to Go Down on a Man and Give Him Mind-Blowing Pleasure


Violet Blue - 2002
    Featuring a complete resource guide to books, videos, illustrations, and websites depicting fellatio, every tip, trick, and technique for giving skilled and unforgettable fellatio is provided. From talking to your partner about fellatio to male pleasure spots and sexual response, Violet Blue covers rimming, shaving, positions, oral sex games for couples, flavored lubricants, sex toys, and a plethora of oral techniques. Original, unpublished erotic vignettes by Alison Tyler are sure to get readers in the mood for trying out these tips.

101 Nights of Grrreat Sex: Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun-Loving Couples


Laura Corn - 1995
    TWICE A WEEK — EVERY WEEK — FOR ONE FULL YEAR!YES, I KNOW that’s a lot to ask from one little book! But I promise you it works. Here’s how —Once a week, you and your lover each pick a sealed page and tear it from the book. There’s no turning back now — and no peeking at each other’s seduction! Just follow your secret instructions, and sometime during the week you’ll each be getting an erotic surprise. Talk about anticipation — you’ll both be on the edge of your seats! You’ll discover romantic new ways to “heat up the passion,” new bedroom tricks and variations on the old ones — and irresistible ways to introduce them to your lover.50 SECRET SEDUCTIONS WRITTEN for his eyes only... begin with seductively intriguing ways to not only get her in the mood — but to get her breathless with anticipation. You’ll give your lover the ultimate pleasure with Tricks of the Tongue…King of Hearts…and She's Out of Control. She’ll act out her most erotic uninhibited fantasies in Dangerous When Wet, and she will never, ever forget your incredible foreplay when you finally get her Up Against The Wall! Whatever seduction you surprise her with, you’ll have her climbing the walls in exquisite expectation!50 SECRET SEDUCTIONS WRITTEN for her eyes only… begins by divulging Marilyn Monroe’s sensual bedroom secret that drove her lovers wild (and caused JFK’s toes to curl!) in “I Think I Made His Back Feel Better” — and it just heats up from there! You’ll learn the steamy technique guaranteed to drive men crazy and bring both your libidos to a boil with The Velvet Tongue…your Lingerie Parfait and Puss n’ Boots will make him fall in love with you all over again… and you’ll have him on his knees begging for more after you take The Laura Corn Challenge!PLUS ONE VERY SPECIAL SEDUCTION shared by both of you. For experienced lovers only — save this one for last!SO GO AHEAD, TEAR THIS BOOK UP... PLEASE!

Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm


Nicole Daedone - 2011
    Slow Sex can change that. Better sex is about one thing: better orgasm. This life-altering guide teaches men and women how to use the practice of Orgasmic Meditation-or OM-to slow down, connect emotionally, and achieve authentic female sexual satisfaction. The promise: In just fifteen minutes every woman can become orgasmic. And, with the right partner and the right technique, that orgasm could last and last! For more than a decade, Nicole Daedone has been leading the "slow sex movement," which is devoted to the art and craft of the female orgasm. OM is the act of slowing down, tuning in, and experiencing a deeper spiritual and physical connection during sex. Slow Sex reveals the philosophy and techniques of OM and includes a step-by-step, ten-day OM starter program, as well as OM secrets for achieving ultimate satisfaction. It also includes exercises to help enhance readers' "regular" sex lives, such as Slow Oral for Her, Slow Oral for Him, and Slow Intercourse. This book is the argument for daily intimacy, and for paying attention as the foundation of pleasure, all with a focus on the female experience.

More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory


Franklin Veaux - 2014
    Now the new book More Than Two can help you find your own way. With completely new material and a fresh approach, Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert wrote More Than Two to expand on and update the themes and ideas in the wildly popular polyamory website morethantwo.com.From partners, authors and practicing polyamorists Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert comes the long-awaited, wide-ranging resource exploring the often-complex world of living polyamorously. Highlighting the nuances (no, this isn’t swinging), the relationship options (do you suit a V, an N, an open network?), the myths (don’t count on wild orgies and endless sex—but don’t rule them out, either!) and the expectations (communication, transparency and trust are paramount), the authors share not only their hard-won philosophies about polyamory, but also their hurts and embarrassments. More Than Two is entirely without judgment and peppered with a good dose of humor. Franklin and Eve underscore the importance of engaging in ethical polyamory, while gently guiding readers through the thorny issues of jealousy and insecurity. And no, they’re not trying to convert you: they know that polyamory isn’t for everyone. Franklin and Eve simply provide those who might be embarking on this lifestyle, or those who have already begun, with a toolkit to help them make informed decisions and set them on a path to enjoying multiple happy, strong, enriching relationships. More Than Two is the book the polyamory community has been waiting for. And who knows? It may just be the book you didn’t even know you were waiting for.

Love, Sex, and Your Heart


Alexander Lowen - 1988
    This groundbreaking new study from the author of the bestselling Love and Orgasm, The Language of the Body, Betrayal of the Body, and Narcissism reveals that heart diseases can actually be linked to disturbances in sex and love. Dr. Alexander Lowen explains: how emotions are expressed physically, even in the way our bodies grow, how pain can freeze psychological development, preventing us from giving and receiving love, how blocked emotions can literally constrict the heart and heighten our risk of coronary disease, how special therapeutic techniques can unlock repressions and reduce strain on the heart, why true sexual fulfillment is the key to emotional wholeness. This revolutionary book does for unfulfilled love what the Friedman/Rosenman classic Type A Behavior and Your Heart did for agression-charts its physical effects and shows how to relieve or prevent them. Through actual case histories and revealing diagrams Love, Sex, and Your Heart demonstrates how it is possible to protect your heart and, at the same time, to achieve a more loving, peaceful, and rewarding life.

The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners


Lady Green - 1998
    Now Lady Green returns with the publication of the revised and updated third edition of her classic The Sexually Dominant Woman. This friendly, non-threatening book is the perfect starting point for the woman who has fantasized about erotic power play, explaining the fundamentals of bondage, sensation and control games. It includes a script to inspire and support the novice through her first scene, a new section on partner-finding skills and updated information on the possible emotional effects of female-dominant play.

Men In Love


Nancy Friday - 1980
    But it is not a collection of love stories. It is a study of the secret, erotic fantasies that men have always kept hidden, a taboo-shattering investigation that reveals the deepest, most conflicting feelings that men have about women, men and their own sexuality.Men in Love goes beyond the socio-sexual cliché of woman seen as either madonna or whore to reveal the conflict of love and rage at the centre of men's emotions and erotic desires. Based on thousands of candid responses from men ranging from their teens to their sixties, Men in Love - startling and shocking - will change men's deepest feelings about their sexuality and make the women who care about them understand them as never before.

Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out


Jessica Graham - 2017
    Graham shares her own gradual transformation from checked out and sexually traumatized to present and joyfully recovered in all aspects of her life as she offers simple mindfulness tools and techniques to improve your sex life and romantic relationships. Her story of sexual healing, awakening, and exploration weaves together with a meditation manual and down-to-earth suggestions for how to bring mindfulness into the bedroom. Not only a tool kit for creating a rich and deeply satisfying sex life, this fun, explicit, and transformative book conveys the deeper message of how combining meditation with sex can bring about profound spiritual awakenings.Good Sex begins with basic meditation instructions from a variety of techniques, followed by mindfulness exercises delving into communication difficulties, and the fear, attachment, and shame that can come up around sex. The book's matter-of-fact and inclusive perspective borrows from Buddhism, Hinduism, and Christianity, but is accessible to the secular community and those with no spiritual or meditation background at all. Graham discusses everything from open-eyed orgasms to threesomes to how to deal with a partner with a low sex drive. From a sex-positive and nontraditional stance she explores nonmonogamy, the benefits of pornography, sexual trauma, consent, and much more. Anyone feeling stuck or stunted in their sex life, unable to communicate their needs or desires, will find strategies for approaching difficult subjects and connecting more intimately with partners. They will discover ways to trust their own personal wisdom, to know themselves better, have better sex, and embrace the spiritual dimension in their sexuality.