Best of
Marriage

1999

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert


John M. Gottman - 1999
    Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships


Henry Cloud - 1999
    Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, teach us that healthy boundaries are the property lines that define and protect you and your spouse as individuals. Once you have them in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved.Boundaries in Marriage will give you the tools and encouragement you need to:Set and maintain personal boundaries and respect those of your spouseUnderstand and practice two key ingredients to a successful marriage: freedom and responsibilityEstablish values that form a godly structure and architecture for your marriageProtect your marriage from different kinds of "intruders"Work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries--or with one who doesn'tIt's time to deepen your love by providing a better environment for it to flourish, and Drs. Cloud and Townsend are here to help. Discover how boundaries can make life better today!

Boundaries in Dating


Henry Cloud - 1999
    Meeting people is just the first step. Once you've met someone, then what? Should you move on, pursue a simple friendship, or more? How do you set smart limits on your physical relationship? How much do you get involved financially? And how do you know if you've found your future spouse?In Boundaries in Dating, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller?Boundaries, answer all of these questions and more. Helping you bridge the pitfalls of dating, Drs. Cloud and Townsend share their practical advice for adding healthy boundaries to your dating life.Boundaries in Dating unfolds a wise, biblical path to developing self-control, freedom, and intimacy. Let Drs. Cloud and Townsend help you get to know yourself, solve problems, and enjoy the journey of dating and finding your life partner.Full of insightful, real-life examples, this much-needed book will give you the tools you need to:Recognize and choose quality over perfection in a dating partnerPrioritize friendship within your relationshipPreserve friendships by separating between platonic relationships and romantic interestMove past denial to handle real relational problems in a realistic and hopeful wayEnjoy this season of lifeDon't forget to check out the?Boundaries?collection of books and workbooks dedicated to key areas of your life, including dating, marriage, parenting kids, raising teenagers, and leadership.

Boundaries in Marriage Kit: An 8-Session Focus on Boundaries and Marriage


Henry Cloud - 1999
    This title contains a VHS video, DVD, Leader's Guide, Participant's Guide and a softcover copy of 'Boundaries in Marriage' - for groups of all sizes which aim to encourage the kind of spiritual and emotional growth and character development that enables marriage - within God's boundaries - to be fun, spiritually fulfilling, and growth producing.

Intimate Issues: 21 Questions Christian Women Ask about Sex


Linda Dillow - 1999
    Written from the perspective of two mature Christian wives and Bible teachers–women who you’ll come to know as teachers and friends–Intimate Issues is biblical and informative: sometimes humorous, other times practical, but always honest. Through its solid teaching warm testimonials, scriptural insights, and experts’ advise, you’ll find resolution for your questions and fears, surprising insights about God’s perspective on sex, and a variety of practical and creative ideas for enhancing your physical relationship with the husband you love. With warmth and wisdom, authors Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus speak woman to woman: examining the teachings of Scripture, exposing the lies of the world, and offering real hope that every woman’s marriage relationship can become all it was intended to be in God’s design.

Fidelity: What It Means to Be a One-Woman Man


Douglas Wilson - 1999
    But in the end, the antidote to all sexual temptation is simple - the godly honoring of the marriage bed.

Federal Husband


Douglas Wilson - 1999
    "Federal" has come to mean nothing more than centralized or big. Because your federal government has become so uncovenantal, it is not surprising that the original meaning of the word is lost. But federal thinking is the backbone of historic Protestant theology, and the Church needs to recover the covenantal understanding of federal headship. Husbands are to lead their families, taking responsibility for them as covenant heads-as federal husbands.

The Marriage Clinic: A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy


John M. Gottman - 1999
    In addition, there are dozens of questionnaires and interview protocols to be used in both assessment and intervention.In prospective, long-term research with over 700 couples, Gottman has discovered certain factors that distinguish happy, stable couples from both unstable, ultimately divorcing couples and stable but unhappy couples. These findings, which are explained here in understandable, nontechnical language, form the basis of his Sound Marital House theory of marriage, which guides the new therapy. This therapy has two goals: changing the marital friendship and teaching couples to regulate conflict.Despite the high aims of much marital therapy, Gottman found that most marital conflicts involve fundamentally unresolvable relationship issues called "perpetual problems." He shows how therapists can help spouses move from gridlock to dialogue on these issues. Solvable problems can be resolved more easily when the couple has a strong marital friendship. He gives therapists the tools to teach spouses five fundamental skills to develop and strengthen their friendship: softened start-up, accepting influence, repair and de-escalation, compromise, and physiological soothing.Gottman compares his clinic to a restaurant, where clients are offered a menu of treatment formats, from psychoeducation for specific issues to extended therapy to repair a badly damaged marital friendship. Therapists, too, can choose among the questionnaires and strategies for those that fit the needs of particular couples. Whatever their choice, they will find that their practice is greatly enriched by the scientifically-based offerings of The Marriage Clinic.

The Couple's Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Lovers


William Martin - 1999
    With The Parent's Tao Te Ching, William Martin beautifully re-interpreted Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching -- one of the world's oldest and most widely read books of wisdom -- expressly for parents. Now, he distills and freshly re-interprets the essence of each of the Tao's 81 chapters to speak directly and clearly to couples. William Martin's indelible, spirited, and sage advice, rendered in free verse, captures the ancient spirit of Lao Tzu's original text, yet speaks directly to modern lovers--and to the full sweep of their experiences and emotions. A deeply felt alternative to advice books that urge readers to manipulate their partners rather than to love them, The Couple's Tao Te Ching is for everyone who has embarked upon a loving relationship, which, as William Martin says, "can be the most rewarding and enlightening adventure possible."

The Freedom And Power Of Forgiveness


John F. MacArthur Jr. - 1999
    But forgiveness isn't a casual concept. God takes it seriously. So seriously that He has not given us an option in the matter. Obedience to His Word is essential.Why? Mostly for our own sake. There can be no intimacy with God and no love for others in a heart where bitterness and unforgiveness dwell. But where there is forgiveness, there is freedom. Spiritual power. Emotional healing. And sweet fellowship.Where there is forgiveness, there is a heart that God has touched--and a life that God can bless.Forgiveness. Almost no concept is more foundational to Christianity--or more important to your personal and spiritual well-being. Yet in an age where it has become fashionable to "forgive yourself" rather than to forgive others, can our modern ways of reckoning guilt, blame, mercy, and justice be reconciled with Jesus' teaching?Pastor John MacArthur thoroughly examines God's Word to answer the questions you're asking about the possibility, the power, the necessity, the freedom . . . the meaning of forgiveness--for your relationships, and for your soul.

And the Bride Wore White: Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity


Dannah Gresh - 1999
    But the greatest proof of it's effect is inthe lives of tens of thousands of young women who've embraced the book's message.Each chapter of And the Bride Wore White begins with a narrative of DannahGresh's young love life, taken from her own teenage journals. She transparentlyshares her struggles and successes, her moments of pain followed by healing andthe moments of triumph. This story-line grips the young reader while they learnstatistically proven risk-reduction factors. The end result are usable "how-to-say-no"skills that can reduce the risk of a young woman's heart being broken by sexualsin. In this update, Dannah and her friends share open letters of encouragementto young women, one for those who chose life and another to those who chose abortion,a letter to teen girls addicted to pornography and another to girls who have experiencedsexual abuse, and many more specific to a young woman's unique circumstances. Over250,000 copies sold!

The Complete Husband: A Practical Guide to Biblical Husbanding


Lou Priolo - 1999
    What does it take to be a "Biblical Husband"? The Complete Husband by Lou Priolo is the ground-breaking book that Christian men have been waiting for.A  In it, the author turns his years of biblical counseling wisdom to the subject of being a husband.A  The author reminds his readers that pleasing their wives does not automatically equate to the sexual arena.A  Men must think in terms of the whole relationship, and the whole person.A  However, since he is aware that sexual relations is part of the blueprint God created for marriage, he devotes an entire chapter to the subject.A  Above all, Priolo stresses that it is correct biblical thinking that leads to tender actions that in turn lead to complete fulfillment in the marriage bond.

The Royal Diaries : Elizabeth I, Isabel Jewel of Castilla, Cleopatra VII, Marie Antoinette - Boxed set of 4


Kathryn Lasky - 1999
    

For the Family's Sake


Susan Schaeffer Macaulay - 1999
    It is the secure environment that allows our hearts to develop. A haven of growth, quiet, and rest. The place where we love and are loved. Sadly though, this kind of home is beginning to disappear as our busy society turns homes into houses where related people abide, but where there is no "heart."With a desire to help you nurture your family's heart, Susan Schaeffer Macaulay presents a clear blueprint for constructing a home that survives the variety of situations that you face in modern life. With Jesus Christ as the foundation, using tools such as common sense, realism, and traditions, you can build a secure, loving environment where every member of your family can flourish.

For Better Forever: A Catholic Guide to Lifelong Marriage


Gregory K. Popcak - 1999
    Sparkling with anecdotes and real, practical wisdom, this is the book every married couple needs.

The Knot Ultimate Wedding Planner & Organizer [


Carley Roney - 1999
    Inside you will find:Detailed timelines and worksheets for scheduling and budgeting Planning and money-saving tips on everything from the dress to the music to the reception decor  8 tabbed dividers packed with visual inspiration, including more than 100 color photos of centerpieces, table settings, favors, and more A perforated color swatch page for mixing and matching your own wedding palette Extensive information on choosing your vendors, including checklists of key questions to ask Ideas for the twenty-first-century bride, including how to use online tools and mobile for maximum convenience  Pockets for collecting inspiring tearsheets, important contracts, and business cards Removable stickers on the front, spine, and back so you can make the binder your ownThe Knot Ultimate Wedding Planner & Organizer is an indispensable resource—and a lovely keepsake after the meaningful, joyful, and customized celebration you’re sure to have.

Covenanted Happiness: Love and Commitment in Marriage


Cormac Burke - 1999
    Cormac Burke candidly and charitably discusses sexual identity in marriage and family life, "family planning," divorce, contraception, the value of children, the family in today's society, and more. He clarifies and defends Church teachings, showing that only following the Church's guidance saves married couples from misery and brings them true happiness. Ideal as a gift for newlyweds and for marriage preparation courses.

Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse


Paul Hegstrom - 1999
    For the man who batters, the woman who feels trapped, and the pastor, counselor, or friend who desperately wants to help them both, Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them offers straight, biblical answers for those who are willing to make tough decisions and overcome the cycle of violence.

Unbending Gender


Joan C. Williams - 1999
    Concerned by what she finds--young women who flatly refuse to identify themselves as feminists and working-class and minority women who feel the movement hasn't addressed the issues that dominate their daily lives--she outlines a new vision of feminism that calls for workplaces focused on the needs of families and, in divorce cases, recognition of the value of family work and its impact on women's earning power. Williams shows that workplaces are designed around men's bodies and life patterns in ways that discriminate against women, and that the work/family system that results is terrible for men, worse for women, and worst of all for children. She proposes a set of practical policies and legal initiatives to reorganize the two realms of work in employment and households--so that men and women can lead healthier and more productive personal and work lives. Williams introduces a new 'reconstructive' feminism that places class, race, and gender conflicts among women at center stage. Her solution is an inclusive, family-friendly feminism that supports both mothers and fathers as caregivers and as workers.

I Kissed Dating Goodbye Study Guide


Joshua Harris - 1999
    Honest and practical, this powerful study guide helps teens and young adults remap their romantic lives in the light of God's Word. It also includes healthy challenges to today's cultural assumptions about relationships and provides solid, biblical alternatives to society's norms.

Becoming One: Emotionally, Physically, Spiritually


Joe Beam - 1999
     With God's help you can make your marriage all it should be and all you crave it to be -- no matter what it's like now. (page 24) Men want action. Women want feeling. From day one they're set up to misunderstand each other. (page 12) Sometimes you must tell your mate the things you've done wrong, and sometimes you are much better off not to tell. The secret of a strong and intimate marriage is knowing what to share and what to leave buried. (page 108) If you're in conflict over sexual desires--one wants to do something other doesn't -- there is a logical and spiritual way to satisfy you both. (page 168) As you grow closer to God, you will grow closer to each other. (page 225)

I Surrender All: Rebuilding a Marriage Broken by Pornography


Clay Crosse - 1999
    Dove Award-winning artist Clay Crosse and his wife, Renee, share their personal story of his struggle with pornography and how they rebuilt their marriage.

The Other Side of Love: Handling Anger in a Godly Way


Gary Chapman - 1999
    For many of us, it is the singlegreatest challenge in every area of our lives. We have been taught thatanger itself is a sin and should be avoided at all costs. However, angeris also understood to be nature s way of preparing man to respond intimes of danger. How then do we go about bringing this volatile emotionunder the Lordship of Jesus Christ? Gary Chapman gives us the perfect tool to answer this and many otherquestions in The Other Side of Love. In this book, he takes a fresh lookat the origin and purpose of anger. Asserting that anger is rooted in theholy nature of God, he reverently explains that anger flows from God sholiness and love. Gary Chapman draws on his extensive counseling experience to instruct ushow to positively process our anger. This will help us to create andfurther cultivate healthy relationships. Helpful study questions for groupor personal use conclude each chapter. Don t let anger get the best of you. Victory begins with understanding.Now is the time to make this critical investment in your walk with Christ.

Family Ministry: How Does God Work in the World?


Diana R. Garland - 1999
    Accordingly, those ministering with families need a multifaceted, well-informed sense of both the Christian purpose of family and the complex world our families inhabit. Writing out of years of experience in the church and academy, Diana Garland here offers just such a broad and comprehensive introduction to this crucially important subject. Family Ministry begins with several chapters placing the family in its modern context, then considers the history of families and their interaction with the church. Having thoroughly contextualized the family and its concerns as they are now understood, Garland dedicates three chapters to biblical understandings of the family. The remaining ten chapters of her book are devoted to the practice of family ministry, including guidance on promoting strong families and dealing with crises such as divorce and spousal abuse. All this, based on careful research and seasoned reflection, makesFamily Ministry not only a key text for students of family ministry but also an indispensable guide and resource for pastors and those in the helping professions.

Ten Secrets for Achieving a Successful Celestial Marriage


Laura Nielson Denke - 1999
    is not about what's wrong with your marriage. Instead Laura Nielson Denke outlines ten classic principles that, when followed, will guarantee marital happiness. Written in conversational style, the book holds your attention as you follow a couple through the ups and downs of learning how to improve their marriage. The quick read will inspire and give you the tools you need no matter what level your marriage is at. Whether you're having problems or you just want to improve your relationship, this book offers a plethora of ideas and practical exercises. The Secrets... is about action-changes that you can make in your marriage to create the relationship you always dreamed of.

The Nature of Love


Dietrich von Hildebrand - 1999
    His books in the 1920s on man and woman broke new ground and stirred up fruitful controversy. Toward the end of his life he wrote a foundational book on love, The Nature of Love. He had in fact been preparing all his life to write this work; he was so drawn to the philosophical analysis of love that his students long ago had dubbed him doctor amoris, the doctor of love. This great work, the mature fruit of von Hildebrand’s genius, is now available for the first time in English, ably translated and introduced by the philosopher John F. Crosby, who had been a student of von Hildebrand. The Nature of Love is a masterpiece of phenomenological investigation. Not since Max Scheler’s work on love have the resources of phenomenology been so fruitfully employed for the understanding of what love is and what it is not. Previously von Hildebrand had distinguished himself mainly in the area of moral philosophy, but in this study on love a new side of his thought emerges. Von Hildebrand is here led into areas of personal subjectivity that he did not have the occasion to explore in his ethical writings. In a most original way he shows that the desire to be loved by the person whom one loves has nothing to do with selfishness; he shows that this desire to be loved and so to be united with the other person is itself a kind of self-donation to the other. Thus von Hildebrand resists the altruism that claims that one is selfless toward the beloved person only by willing the good of the other in such a way as to be indifferent to being loved in return. On the other hand, he equally resists the claim that the happiness of the one who loves is the primary motive of love. Von Hildebrand indicates the radically other-centered direction of love, while avoiding the pitfall of a depersonalized altruism. Thus he does justice both to the extraordinary selftranscende

Winning Your Wife Back Before It's Too Late


Gary Smalley - 1999
    While there are numerous books designed for the spouse who wants to separate or divorce, there are few resources for those who want to reconcile the relationship. This book is written specifically for the man whose wife has walked out on him and wants to win her back. It includes step-by-step, easy-to-understand instructions and advice. Real-life examples offer insight into how other men won their wives back and a workbook section helps men develop a personalized game plan for their individual situations. Winning Your Wife Back Before It's Too Late offers simple steps that God can use to restore hope and make a positive difference in a marriage relationship.

The Fiqh of Marriage in the Light of the Quran and Sunnah


صالح بن غانم السدلان - 1999
    al-Sadlaan of Muhammad Ibn Saud University covers the most important topics realated to the fiqh of Marriage. He discusses the topics found in traditional books of Fiqh, such as the place of the dower, the minimum and maximum amount of the dower, and when the woman is entitled to all, half or none of her dower. The book also discusses the rights of the husband and wife in Islam as well as sexual etiquette in Islam.

10,000 Ways to Say I Love You: The Biggest Collection of Romantic Ideas Ever Gathered in One Place


Gregory J.P. Godek - 1999
    . . This little book of love is the biggest collection of loving ideas ever gathered in one place. Express your true affection with secret love notes, perpetual bouquets, secluded picnics, outrageous gifts . . . . . . and 9,996 more ways to say ""I love you!"