These patterns include, for example, narcissistic love, when a person has so idealized the partner and the relationship that they can’t possibly continue to measure up; one-way love, when a person loves someone who doesn’t return that love; triangular love, when a third party, be it a mother, an affair, or a job is involved in the relationship; and forbidden love, the kind of relationship that is generally off-limits, such as when a teacher dates a student. In If Love Could Think, Gratch shows us that all of these patterns stem from one fundamental problem—our own ambivalence.With his trademark combination of depth and humor, and using many individual stories as engaging examples, Gratch walks us through the ways we get stuck in these patterns. In each case we are looking for perfect or ideal love. Every pattern creates an obstacle so we don’t have to face our own ambivalence about the relationship or the other person. But humans aren’t perfect, so no matter how wonderful love can be, there is no such thing as pure love. Ambivalence implies the existence not only of love but also of anger, disapproval, or disappointment. As Dr. Gratch shows, there are really only two choices: accept ambivalence as part of any loving relationship, or continue to repeat the patterns of illusory love. Happily, using a simple yet powerful three-step approach, If Love Could Think helps readers to use their own minds to break these patterns of failed relationships and find real and lasting love.From the Hardcover edition.

    He offers wisdom to help people avoid sexual temptation and to keep the trophy of purity intact in order to present it to their spouses on their honeymoon.

    The first Reiki Master to practice in an operating room under the supervision of Dr. Mehmet Oz, author Raven Keyes has brought Reiki to the defining events of our time. With engaging prose, Keyes tells moving stories of giving Reiki to rescue workers at Ground Zero, PTSD survivors, professional athletes, trauma patients, and those suffering from crippling emotional pain. Keyes offers inspirational experiences of connecting with angels and spirit guides, and shares the joys and pains of working with patients, their loved ones, and their communities. Through stories and meditations, readers are filled with hope and a sense of good will. Helpful exercises and meditations are included to invite healing and provide the opportunity to engage with Reiki energy more deeply.