Best of
Relationships

1985

Bringing Out the Best in People: How to Enjoy Helping Others Excel


Alan Loy McGinnis - 1985
    There are actually a small number of principles used by good motivators, and the best leaders were using them long before psychology had a name. Fascinating case studies and anecdotes about Lee Iacocca, Sandra Day O'Connor, and many others show how you can put 12 key principles to work in your family or organization. Whether you are a parent, executive, teacher, or friend, you can gain the satisfaction that comes from Bringing the Best Out in People.

The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships


Harriet Lerner - 1985
    Harriet Lerner, in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of our anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.

The Mystery of Marriage: Meditations on the Miracle


Mike Mason - 1985
    In highly readable, first-person style, Mason’s writing stimulates readers’ thoughts and prayers and propels couples to deeper intimacy. “A marriage is not a joining of two worlds,” says the author, “but an abandoning of two worlds in order that one new one might be formed.” Rich chapters on “Otherness,” “Vows,” “Intimacy,” “Sex,” “Submission,” and an all-new chapter on “Oneness” lift readers to view the eternal, spiritual nature of this faith-filled, “impossible,” wild—yet wonderful—frontier. Story Behind the Book"Over the twenty years since its publication, many couples have told me that they’ve read my book aloud to each other. This always amazes me and gives me great joy. I’m also amazed that many single people have read it. Either way, my goal is for hearts to be warmed by the mystery of divine love. I want couples to enter into deeper intimacy by thinking together about the mystery of marriage—about how their love, besides being a gift of God, reflects the very love He has for Himself in the Trinity. For God is not a bachelor, and throughout the Bible marriage is a supreme picture of the nature of God’s love and of His kingdom. I want people who read my book to feel so soaked in these wonderful, divine mysteries that it deepens their reverence for marriage and inspires them to greater love."   -Mike Mason

Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change


Robin Norwood - 1985
    Therapist Robin Norwood describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behaviour which certain women develop as a response to problems from childhood.

Bradshaw on the Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self-Esteem


John Bradshaw - 1985
    Within its pages, you will discover the cause of emotionally impaired families. You will learn how unhealthy rules of behavior are passed down from parents to children, and the destructive effect this process has on our society. Using the latest family research and recovery material in this new edition, Bradshaw also explores the individual in both a family and societal setting. He shows you ways to escape the tyranny of family-reinforced behavior traps--from addiction and co-dependency to loss of will and denial--and demonstrates how to make conscious choices that will transform your life and the lives of your loved ones. He helps you heal yourself and then, using what you have learned helps you heal your family. Finally, Bradshaw extends this idea to our society: by returning yourself and your family to emotional health, you can heal the world in which you live. He helps you reenvision societal conflicts from the perspective of a global family, and shares with you the power of deep democracy: how the choices you make every day can affect--and improve--your world.

The Psychology of Romantic Love


Nathaniel Branden - 1985
    Nathaniel Branden, licensed psychotherapist, lecturer, corporate consultant, and the bestselling author of twenty books including The Psychology of Self-Esteem; The Six Pillars of Self Esteem; and The Art of Living Consciously, explores the nature of romantic love on many levels the philosophical, the historical, the sociological, and the psychological. In The Psychology of Romantic Love, Dr. Branden explores why so many people believe that romantic love is just not possible in today's world. Drawing on his experience with thousands of couples, Dr. Branden finds that romantic love is still possible for anyone who understands its nature and is willing to accept its challenges. Love, according to Dr. Branden, is a pathway not only to extraordinary joy but also to profound self-discovery.

Struggle for Intimacy


Janet Geringer Wotitiz - 1985
    She provides suggestions for building loving relationships with friends, partners, and spouses.

Song of the Wind


Madge Swindells - 1985
     When her mother is shot at the close of World War II, Marika Magos is orphaned into a new life in the diamond canyons of South Africa. As a worn-torn Europe is on the mend, Marika climbs to the glittering heights of the London fashion industry. From Paris to New York, her name is known and her admirers many. Not even Tony Palma, the international tycoon who thought he possessed her entirely knows of the secret passion she harbours for Swiss immigrant Gunter Grieff. Yet the sweet promise of their affair turns to ashes when Marika learns that his name and papers are false, changed in the final days of the war to protect his German identity. Song of the Wind tells a powerful tale of romance, adventure and intrigue. Praise for Song of the Wind ‘Irresistible . . . keeps your emotions trembling over hundreds of pages’ - MAIL ON SUNDAY Praise for Madge Swindells Praise for Madge Swindells 'Superlative' - Publishers Weekly 'I was gripped from start to finish’ - Kate Alexander, author ‘Terrific. A book that’s big in every sense. . . rich in detail and written with passion it lives on in the memory. I loved it’ - Sarah Harrison, author Madge Swindells was born and educated in England. As a teenager, she emigrated to South Africa where she studied archaeology at Cape Town University. Later, in England, she was a Fleet Street journalist and the manager of her own publishing company. Her earlier novels, Summer Harvest, Shadows on the Snow, The Corsican Woman, Edelweiss, The Sentinel and Harvesting the Past were international bestsellers and have been translated into eight languages. She lives in South Africa.

The Two-Step


Eileen McCann - 1985
    Why do all couples have such a difficult time becoming-and remaining-close? Now, for everyone who has ever struggled with the pain of an unhappy relationship, psychotherapist Eileen McCann answers this age-old question in a book destined to become every lover's favorite bedside companion. McCann argues that the thorny path of love is nothing less than a highly choreographed dance that steps around issues of power, distance, and intimacy. With the help of Douglas Shannon's delightful and insightful drawings, McCann charts our unwitting steps in the dance of pursuit and avoidance and shows us how to transform it into one that returns joy and meaning to our lives. The Two-Step is a wise and witty guide to affairs of the heart that delights the eye as it instructs the mind. "I find this book to be a pictorial treasure of how we act, showing the games we play, while trying to hide what we want. Out of these pictures comes a clear realization of what we are doing. With that realization, we can laugh at ourselves and be inspired to make the changes we need to make." - Virginia M. Satir

Growing in Christ: A 13-Week Course for New and Growing Christians


Jeff Schadt - 1985
    Tear-out Scripture memory verse cards are included in KJV, NIV, NASB, and NRSV.• 13 lessons

Telling Each Other the Truth


William Backus - 1985
    The author uses Scripture, case histories, and dialogue to impart timeless principles that can heal damaged relationships, strengthen everyday communication, and help people avoid the traps of manipulation that often disrupt the free flow of honest discussion. Readers will find this information invaluable in every relationship of life--especially those that don't come easy.

Ask Me If I Care


H.B. Gilmour - 1985
    It's hard starting over — new family, new school, new friends.Then Jenny meets Pete McCaffrey, the mysterious boy next door. Stay away from him, everyone warns her, he's trouble. He's already got a girlfriend. And he deals drugs.But Jenny needs someone to lean on, so she ignores their advice. Pretty soon, Pete's hooked on Jenny. And Jenny is hooked on drugs.She knows she's in over her head. The question is, can she get out?

The Secret of Loving


Josh McDowell - 1985
    McDowell explores the values and qualities that will help the reader, whether single or married, be the right person for someone else.

SOS: Help for Parents


Lynn Clark - 1985
    Available in eight languages, SOS is internationally used by parents. The book teaches over 20 methods for managing 46 different problem behaviors. Please link this 3rd Edition ISBN to the 2nd Edition ISBN 0-935111-20-4

Genograms in Family Assessment


Monica McGoldrick - 1985
    Both entertaining and instructive, this book is the ideal way to introduce all those involved in family treatment to this essential assessment tool.

The Secret of Happy Children: Why Children Behave the Way They Do -- and What You Can Do to Help Them to Be Optimistic, Loving, Capable, and Happy


Steve Biddulph - 1985
    With unparalleled clarity, common sense, and warmth, The Secret of Happy Children instructs all parents about parent-child communication from babyhood to teens. It gives parents confidence to be more themselves as parents -- stronger, more loving, more definite, more relaxed. Biddulph reveals what is really happening inside kids' minds and what to do about it. He covers a wide variety of issues important to a child's -- and a parent's -- happiness, including stopping tantrums before they begin, curing shyness, the link between food and behavior, and much more. Parents will find themselves letting go of old, negative approaches and freeing up more energy to enjoy their kids and their own lives.

Even a Stone Can Be a Teacher


Sheldon B. Kopp - 1985
    A psychologist draws upon parables, myths, and stories to illustrate the inspirational message that the experiences of everyday life, if viewed from the proper perspective, can be a source of personal growth and wisdom.

Bonding: Relationships in the Image of God


Donald M. Joy - 1985
    This need for intimacy with others was built into the fabric of our beings by our Creator. Join Dr. Donald M. Joy in this exciting and informative celebration of our humanness--and discover who you are and what makes you and those you love such special people--made in the image of God.

Good-Bye to Guilt: Releasing Fear Through Forgiveness


Gerald G. Jampolsky - 1985
    They have a treat in store. In  clear and beautiful prose Jerry tells us that peace  is a conscious choice. Saying good-bye to guilt is  a vital step in making that choice."--from  the Foreword by John Denver. Love is  where there is no fear. Fear is where there is no love.  In our age of anxieties, most of us live by  complex expectations about what we should achieve, how  we should act, and how others should treat us. As  a result, we are victimized by guilt and  fear--guilt because our standards haven't been met in the  past, fear that they won't be met in the future.  Inevitable, these negative emotions wreak havoc  on our personal relationships, self -esteem, and  peace of mind. But what if we let go of our fear  and guilt? The transformation can be miraculous,  says world famous psychiatrist and author Gerald  G. Jampolsky. The secret lies in healthy  perception of yourself. Dr. Jampolsky points the way  through fourteen lessons that can change your life.  These lessons show: How to quiet the ego-self that  creates fear and guilt. How to accept genuine  love and give it away. How to stop judging others,  thereby to stop judging yourself. How to listen to  your inner voice to receive support and guidance.  How to forgive others so that loneliness and  separation become illusions of the past. And much  more. Here is a book for everyone who seeks the key  to life's most satisfying reward. A book that  tells you how to throw off the burdens of the past,  and learn what it can mean to truly love.

Worthy of Love: Meditations on Loving Ourselves and Others


Karen Casey - 1985
    "The irony is that the harder we look for love, the more blurred our vision. Only when we become quiet and trust that love is our birthright do we discover its friendship has enfolded us." --Karen Casey, Worthy of Love