“For years I’d made my own choices, paid my own bills, shoveled my own snow.” But somehow she had become dependent in quite another way. “I had fallen into the habit of defining myself in terms of who I was to other people and what they expected of me.” But who was she away from the people and things that defined her? In this exquisite book, Steinbach searches for the answer to this question in some of the most beautiful and exciting places in the world: Paris, where she finds a soul mate; Oxford, where she takes a course on the English village; and Milan, where she befriends a young woman about to be married. Beautifully illustrated with postcards from Steinbach’s journeys, this revealing and witty book transports you into a fascinating inner and outer journey, an unforgettable voyage of discovery.

    . . an ingeniously conceived, tightly written, and beautifully packaged memoir, a vibrant portrait of the American feminine cultural experience from the 1950s forward." Independent PublishersStarred review in Publisher's Weekly Select, 2013London Book Festival: First Place, Autobiography, 2013Independent Publishers: Bronze, Memoir, 2013. Hollywood Book Festival: Honorable Mention, Autobiography,2013.Reader's Favorite: Finalist, Autobiography, 2013.Southern California Book Festival: Honorable Mention, 2013National Indie Excellence Awards: Finalist, May 2014ForeWord Book of the Year Awards: Silver, Women's Studies June 2014San Francisco Book Festival: Honorable Mention, May 2014Independent Reader "Approved," June 2014New York Book Festival: Honorable Mention, June 2014