And - what is infinitely refreshing, almost radical in a decade that has focused somewhat querulously on the duties, problems, miseries, and shortcomings of the modern woman as Wife - Father Capon reinstates the importance of the man in maintaining the emotional vitality of a marriage, in setting the tone of family life, in leading, not as a superior being or tryant, but as the male whose role it is in wedlock ast in a waltz to lead.