The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed


Jessica Lahey - 2014
    As teacher and writer Jessica Lahey explains, even though these parents see themselves as being highly responsive to their children’s well-being, they aren’t giving them the chance to experience failure—or the opportunity to learn to solve their own problems.Overparenting has the potential to ruin a child’s confidence and undermine their education, Lahey reminds us. Teachers don’t just teach reading, writing, and arithmetic. They teach responsibility, organization, manners, restraint, and foresight—important life skills children carry with them long after they leave the classroom. Providing a path toward solutions, Lahey lays out a blueprint with targeted advice for handling homework, report cards, social dynamics, and sports. Most importantly, she sets forth a plan to help parents learn to step back and embrace their children’s failures. Hard-hitting yet warm and wise, The Gift of Failure is essential reading for parents, educators, and psychologists nationwide who want to help their children succeed.

Adaptability: How to Survive Change You Didn't Ask for


M.J. Ryan - 2009
    "Change is hard," we say, and it is even harder when change is thrust upon us. In today's tough times, we may be forced to reinvent our career or downsize our lives; at any point in life, we may lose a love or a dream. Our first reaction to change we didn't ask for may be to rail against fate. But what if we could see past today's turmoil and spot the opportunities that lie within unasked-for change? That is the promise of "AdaptAbility, " bestselling author and executive coach M. J. Ryan's paradigm-shifting new book on not merely surviving but thriving when change is required. Why is it so hard to accept change? Paradoxically, it is for the very reason that our brains usually work so well; we are designed to learn something and make it automatic. The problem is that when circumstances change, our "efficient" brains keep trying to do things the same old way. In "AdaptAbility, " Ryan provides strategies to retrain your brain and optimize your response to change, step by step: by first accepting the new reality, then expanding your options, and finally, taking effective action. She offers cutting-edge tools for becoming calmer, less fearful, and more flexible, creative, and resourceful in your thinking. Best of all, as your "adapt-ability" increases, so does your confidence that you will be able to face whatever life sends your way and find new ways to flourish. M. J. Ryan, internationally recognized as a leading change expert, is one of the creators of the "New York Times" bestselling Random Acts of Kindness series and the author of "This Year I Will . . ., The Happiness Makeover, The Power of Patience, Trusting Yourself, "and "Attitudes of Gratitude, " among other books. A member of Professional Thinking Partners, she specializes in coaching individuals and teams around the world. She has appeared on the" Today "show and CNN, and is a contributing editor to "Good Housekeeping "and "Health." She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and daughter. Visit her website at www.mj-ryan.com.